Over the last few months I've started to feel more and more guilty about my life. I read too much bloody Daily Mail, and I know I shouldn't, but it's gotten to the point where even when I know I shouldn't feel guilty I do.
I am on certain benefits. I have been disabled since I was a child, and although at 18 I tried to get a job and go into Higher Education, I had to leave both because of my health. Over the last 8 years I've tried on several occasions to go back to part time work; I even started my own business, which I kept going for 8 months, because I so wanted to work but every time I've ended up getting really ill, ending up in hospital and having to stop. I currently volunteer one morning a week, so I can contribute to society in some way and have no plans to stop, but even that is hard some weeks, because I'm so exhausted all the time.
I've always felt bad about getting benefits but over the last year there has been so much in the press about scroungers that I find it almost unbearable. It's really silly because I know that if I was healthy I would be working, and I know if I look at my disabled friends I feel that of course it's absolutely right that society supports them, but still I can't get rid of this feeling.
Recently aunt and uncle bought a holiday apartment out in Spain, and they've offered me the chance to go out for 1 month this year. Just about my whole life, bar the odd day here and there, is spent in one room, in bed, not really seeing anyone, and of course out in Spain my lifestyle would be exactly the same, but I still feel guilty about going. Because of course, as I keep reading, there are so many people who work 102 hours a week and go without meals so their children can eat and they've never been abroad in their lives, etc. etc., and I think 'why should I as a benefit scrounger get to go?' I feel the same too about things like days out. Like sometimes I go shopping and even then I think 'why should I have any disposable income left at all to buy something nice for myself?' Anything I do I think I'm just scrounging off society. I feel guilty for having any fun at all, ever.
Typing all this out I can see I shouldn't feel guilty. I don't have children or a partner, or the chance to have a career, life is in many ways one huge struggle every day. (though with lots of good in it too thanks to friends/family) I can't see that most people would begrudge me having fun once in a while. But it is still so hard to shake off the guilt. I want to say 'David Cameron, IDS, Daily Mail......this is what you've reduced me to and you're all bastards.'
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thedailymailhatesme · 27/06/2012 11:22
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