Hi have namechanged as have rl friends here and they may recognise me from this.
About 3 years ago dp and I seperated and he had a fling with a girl we both know. It all ended and he and I got back together. We have since had a second child. She has since started a relationship with a very good friend of his and had a child. She is on the periphery of our lives all the time, she came to a family memorial thing lately which I found a bit odd, and she is in the same group of friends with my best friend from school. She worked in dd's school for a year which always kind of niggled with me, but left after maternity leave, so hasn't worked there is about a year and a half.
Last September dp went out and left his phone behind and rang me to ask me was his phone at home. When I found it there were messages on it, asked him did he want me to read them out? He said yes and I found messages from her. Very flirty messages, reminiscing about the sex they had, laughing and joking, saying they were great times. I was of course very upset about it, we talked it all out, he apologised. Sorted. Forgotten.
Until dd came home from school today saying this girl had subbed for her teacher and dad and her were talking in the yard after school. DD doesn't know anything about dp and the other girl btw, knows they are friends, assumes I am also friendly with her. She was delighted with the novelty of having someone she knows of teaching her (just gone 7)
Can I ring the school and ask that she doesn't teach her class again? It makes me so uncomfortable, and I find it really innappropriate tbh. I think texting messages like that to the parent of a pupil really unethical as well as upsetting for the other parent (me)
I'm not at all worried about anything starting up with dp and her again, I trust him, I even trust her but something about it all just doesn't sit right with me.
Am totally prepared to be told IABU btw, will accept if I am
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To ask the school that this teacher does not teach my dd again
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ChangyChangyChangy · 20/06/2012 16:35
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