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AIBU?

To wonder how long to give people before saying no

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OnlyWantsOneTwoAndThree · 04/06/2012 12:13

Ex was meant to have dd last weekend but didn't. Partly due to her being ill - and wanting to stay here and him saying ok that suits me any way

I text him on Thursday to say as he hasn't seen her now for 3 weeks would he like to have her for a day or two in 1/2 term as we have no plans weds/thurs and she wants to see him- he hasnt bothered to text me back.

AIBU to just text him now and say sorry we've now made plans or shall I just ignore it as he obviously is going to do? I want to make plans with dd so she doesn't miss out.

(for back ground - he only sees her as per contact agreement - doesn't speak to her in between contact and him & I only communicate via text or email - as a way of documenting everything and not having a huge row)

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Nanny0gg · 04/06/2012 12:28

I'd plan to do what you want to do with your DD.

He's not going to change his attitude, is he?

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trixie123 · 04/06/2012 12:33

well, could you mentally plan a few low key things with DD, and then of he does ring last minute she could still go if she wants to. He is being a twat but if she wants to see him and he does want to see her, seems a shame to stop it.

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OnlyWantsOneTwoAndThree · 04/06/2012 12:53

I'm getting ever so slightly pissed off with being the only one out of the pair of us that contemplates dd and what she wants.

She has been invited to a school friends party on Wednesday.

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HauntedLittleLunatic · 04/06/2012 13:00

I would text him and say that you've heard.nothing but Dd has had a party invite and... (depending on what sort of reaction you expect to get) end with the following:

...I've now agreed she can go but she is still available thurs if you wish.
...I need to know your plans before I accept or decline but obviously she would love to go. I need to reply by end of today (and will say she can go if I don't hear anything)
...I've agreed she can go, but if you want to do anything weds can you please make sure she gets there and back.

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