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AIBU?

Netmums, not meaning to moan here....

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FloweryRuna · 21/05/2012 16:41

Hi,

Sorry to talk about another site, but I was confused thinking NM and MN were similar. I know now that NM is full of bright colours and pictures, and this one is blue. I've been on NM for 5 years and used to go there just to seek advice, and look for penfriends. The worst thing I did was drift off to their coffeehouse area. I wanted to get to know others a bit. I didn't think I did anything wrong at first until I posted. I discovered a massive clique of people who all agree with the same thing. They targetted me with online verbal. I wud come away from NM and let things cool, then go back again a month later.

I got bullied on NM by 50 of the members. I tried ignoring them and made lots of reports, pressing the Report button. Either admin did something or didn't. Because of this the admin started picking on me! I later found out they've had me monitored for some reason. I didn't do anything wrong. I was a bit scared when admin sent PM's harasing me for posting on their Lounge forum and daring to disagree with others. I was never rude or nasty.

One male poster on NM stalked me and tried to locate me elsewhere. A group of others threatened to kill me, ect. It was all really grubby. The worst thing I did again was go back! I returned 3 months later. This time the members might've forgot me but admin certainly didn't! They banned me from using their general forums. I asked them why and they didn't answer except tell me they were checking into my personal info, monitoring my activities, get this - not wanting me to use their report buttons and they didn't want me expressing an opinion.

I felt quite scared b/cos they have all my personal info, such as address, phone, real name, LO's name, my d/o/b/ and IP, ect. The admin (i mean all of them as they all signed it) sounded threatening and warned me off using their site again. I asked them what is it I've done wrong in the first place. No answer. I realised it was best to leave the site.

Later I found out one of the members who was quite nasty to me could be a TV celeb who also uses the site and her avatar looks like her. I didn't know this when I posted on it.

What I talked about on there getting into troble on NM? Saying I'm celibate and a single mum who doesn't need a man in my life. That was all

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ImBetterThanYou · 21/05/2012 16:45

Stick to mumsnet, we've got cooler names.

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MardyBra · 21/05/2012 16:45

I'm not really sure it helps to complain about one forum on another one. Welcome to MN. why not get stuck in and try and put your bad experiences behind you.

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Pascha · 21/05/2012 16:47

Feel better for getting that out? I would just leave well alone now, you're obviously not suited to each other.

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FloweryRuna · 21/05/2012 16:48

Just lettin off steam. Glad to be here.

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Frontpaw · 21/05/2012 16:49

Bloody hell! They sound like the 'nasty girl gang' at school.

Just ignore them, they are just jealous and probably bullied at homw.

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SPsFanjoHarboursDeadCats · 21/05/2012 16:50

We really do have better names here Grin

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thatisall · 21/05/2012 16:50

I thought Netmums was all hugs and huns?? was I wrong? r there bitches over there?

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ScooseLooseAbootThisHoose · 21/05/2012 16:51

Rise above it it sounds like you will be better suited to another forum

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CanISawItOff · 21/05/2012 16:52

You get a contingent like that in real life and on most internet forums. Best thing is to stay anonymous and come join the warm embrace of MN.

Welcome!

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manicbmc · 21/05/2012 16:52

Sounds delightful. Hmm

But why keep going back if they were so vile?

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LadySybilPussPolham · 21/05/2012 16:54

Hmm sounds a bit far-fetched to me

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YourFanjoIsNotAHandbag · 21/05/2012 16:54

We have much better names here.
I bet nethuns don't even know what a fanjo is :)

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Greatauntirene · 21/05/2012 16:54

Don't put your details online (though someone determined could prob find most info about you if they tried) makeup a dob, address etc.

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CaptainHetty · 21/05/2012 16:55

I got a lifetime ban for 'questioning a moderator's decision' :o There are some truly vile people over there, and yes, the same ones tend to gang up and bully people into submission.

You're better off here :)

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PissyDust · 21/05/2012 16:55

It's not good practice to bitch about one site on another but it does all sound very off.

What the jeff were you disagreeing over? hopes you don't come back with fruit shoots and P&C parking

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SPsFanjoHarboursDeadCats · 21/05/2012 16:57

respect sister Grin

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bibbitybobbitybunny · 21/05/2012 16:58

Gosh, I can't help but think there must be two sides to this story. Do you really expect people on here to believe that what you have written to be true?

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toofattorun · 21/05/2012 16:59

Can't stand cliques. I too thought netmums were all knitting and baking freaks.

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thatisall · 21/05/2012 16:59

has anyone else just nipped over to Netmums to see if they can find the thread and the bitches??? I took my biscuits!

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SPsFanjoHarboursDeadCats · 21/05/2012 17:00

thatisall I won't take a trip over there incase I come back covered in glitter and wanting to talk bout my 'lickle man'

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CanISawItOff · 21/05/2012 17:01

thatisall the site makes my eyes bleed so I tend to avoid it, however if you find anything out do pm me with a link keep it to yourself

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thatisall · 21/05/2012 17:02

SPFanjo I found a thread were a woman was asking for tips as she was trying out a strap on with her dp .....not so cute and fluffy haha

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thatisall · 21/05/2012 17:02

CanISaw pahaaahhh Wink will do

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Pascha · 21/05/2012 17:03

It does all sound a bit far fetched, however I am not one to judge when I have only one upset rant of the situation. I would reiterate my previous comment: leave well alone now and move on.


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Voidka · 21/05/2012 17:04

I got banned for calling someone stupid.

However your story seems a bit far fetched to me. I can only think of one poster on NM who people were mean to and she isnt you according to your profile.

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