I am the eldest and less favoured child of four and the only one with children. Have never had a close relationship with my parents but did with one of my grandparents and was hoping my children would form good relationships of their own with my parents (my husbands parents are elderly and live quite far away so we don't see them as often as we would like to but they are interested).
This is never going to happen and I feel really sad. They live only a 15-20 minute easy drive away and never visit us or invite us to them unless it is some sort of family occasion like a birthday. They will babysit if asked but I really feel by their attitude that it is a big ask and putting them out so I don't really bother asking anymore. They would certainly never offer even if it was my birthday or anniversary. I always invite them to school events but they rarely attend as usually have something better to do.
The other mums at school all seem to have parents that see their granchildren on a regular basis and help out with childcare. I feel my parents are missing out on so much. My daughter has a hobby that my mum used to do and love but I really have to drag her out to come and watch.
What has angered me today is that I invited them to another school function in a couple of weeks time but they didn't respond and then emailed me this morning about something else they are doing that day so seem to have forgotten all about it or pushed it to the bottom of the priority list. Instead they are visiting one of my younger siblings which they could do any day of the week to help out with his new rundown house (the only thing he could afford as despite being in his mid-late twenties he has never had a full time job, by choice). I have never had any help with anything in my house!
I have not had a falling out with them as such and in a real emergency they will come up trumps but I just don't understand their lack of interest in me or my family. If and when one of my siblings have children they will be different with them I just know it and that I feel would be the catalyst to fall out for good.
Sorry for ranting, the hurt just really builds up over time...
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emlu67 · 21/05/2012 10:13
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