This has happened to me and a friend of mine...
My story
Sometimes, when MIL comes around to visit and spend time with her grandson, she often has one of her other grandchildren with her. SIL pretty much moves in with MIL over the weekend, so she see's her other DGC loads. When OH (her son) and I had DS, I think she expected us to spend pretty much the whole weekend at her house. However, we both work full time so we have to plan our time. I have tried to make the effort to invite her around to our house and cook dinner, so she can spend quality time with DGS, but half the time, she has one of the others with her.
My friend
SHe told me a smiliar story. Her DH is going away for the weekend and wanted some company. She decided to invite her MIL instead of her mother (who is probably going to feel quite left out when she hears) so that MIL could spend quality time with her DGS (who is about 3 month and they live halfway accross England, so its not like they can just pop in). ANyway, MIL invites her DD (my friends SIL) and her two children along, so now my friend is having to host them a well.
I would genuinely like to know if it is BU for MIL to bring along the other DGC when they already spend loads of time with the other DGC.
BOth of our SIL have 2 children - one of pre-school age (e.g. 3-4) and a younger one, so they do need a lot of attention and supervision.
Its not that I'm hugely bothered, but it does feel like a bit of snub when you try and make the effort for MIL to spend more time with DGS.
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... to want MIL to spend time with DGS without her other DGC?
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chanie44 · 09/04/2012 21:51
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