I live in a town close to Bradford, that has the same levels of segregation. My children go to nusery/school in a village next to an "asian area" with about a quarter of the children being muslim, so all 3 of my children have a lot of muslim friends. My questions were completely ignored.
I totally agree that we need to integrate the communities more. My questions were (roughly - can't remember how I phrased it):
- I live in a town close by and totally agree with Sabbiyah's comment on the need for cohesion. My children have a lot of muslim friends (my son's friends are nearly all muslim). The problem I find is that whilst the children integrate well at school there is absolutely NO integration outside of school. Party invitations and invitations to tea after school are declined (or more often than not completely ignored). Why do you think this is? Is it because of worries over Halal food not being served? Or something more deep seated?
- (along the same lines) In my childrens' school the children themselves integrate very well up to about year 4. From year 5 onwards you can see the divide if you pass the school at playtimes. My own son was told by (some) of the white boys that they would only play with him if he fell out with his muslim friends. I feel that as the children start socialising out of school, the parents are not allowing the two cultures to mix. How do we, as parents, enable the children to socialise outside school?
I really feel the answers to these questions are important (to me at least). Last year all my sons friends were muslim (in year 5). He was getting upset as his sister was always having friends over for tea and sleepovers and also getting invited back, whilst he was constantly on his own. In the end I reluctantly had to tell him that in was unlikely his muslim friends would ever be coming for tea and maybe he should start playing with some of the non muslim children. Which he did.
NB - not being racist by referring to children as "white" or "muslim". The school they are at is bicultural rather than multicultural.