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to absolutely loathe the school run?

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lottielou39 Thu 08-Mar-12 20:14:50

I know it's been done to death, but I'm really hating it right now. I've done it for 7 years so far and would rather do anything else in the world.
There are Mums not talking to each other, Mums gossiping about each others kids, a Mum I try hard to avoid because she gets involved in every tiny spat her angelic cherub gets involved in (and they are always best mates the next day after this woman has made a hugh drama over it), Mums who wave and smile one day, then walk past you to someone more interesting the next day. I've tried getting there early to chat to people, getting there at the very last second so I can just collect and run... and it never gets better. I fucking hate it.

bytheMoonlight Thu 08-Mar-12 20:19:08

I hate it. Esp the 'mums who wave and smile one day, then walk past you to someone more interesting the next day.'

DD1 is only in pre-school though, so I have a looooooong way to go yet sad

Sparklingbrook Thu 08-Mar-12 20:21:33

DS1 is at High School. Drive down to school, eject DS1 from car, drive off. grin It does get better I promise. I did 8 years of what you describe and it's soul destroying. sad

SauvignonBlanche Thu 08-Mar-12 20:23:58

YANBU, I loathe it.
So much so, I get DH to do it. grin

bytheMoonlight Thu 08-Mar-12 20:24:28

Am very envy of the mums I see pushing their kids out of the car and then making a quick getaway Sparkling. One day ....

Sparklingbrook Thu 08-Mar-12 20:27:38

I just feel like I have earnt it Moonlight. All the boasting and comparing and blowing hot and cold, I am past it all.

How much longer have you got Lottielou?

headfairy Thu 08-Mar-12 20:29:17

I get what you mean about the people who say hi one day and not the next, but are you really supposed to individually greet everyone at the school gate each morning?

I'm a newbie at this as ds is still only at preschool, however he starts YR in Sept. I can't risk getting it wrong if i've got the next 7 years with these people grin

Three days a week I have to go to work straight from school so I don't really have time to stand around and individually greet everyone and ask them out they are, their dcs are, their dogs are, what they got up to at the weekend etc etc.

Is it acceptible to smile at everyone I make eye contact with, maybe chuck in a cheery "morning!". I do chat if we're waiting for the gate to open, or we're queueing up to sign the kids in... but once ds is in, I have to get going.

Am I going to be vilified next year?

sensuallettuce Thu 08-Mar-12 20:29:37

Drive to High School stop car eject DS1 and DD from the car drive round to Middle School eject DS2 from the car. Drive to work.


sensuallettuce Thu 08-Mar-12 20:31:37

.....although a couple of times I have forgotten the stopping bit at Middle School and got half way to work and realised DS2 is still sat quietly in the back confused

Snakeonaplane Thu 08-Mar-12 20:31:52

Would it make you feel any better if I told you I have to do 2 schools about 15 mins apart in traffic where the pick up time is the same confused with a nearly 3 month old baby in tow, I'm probably the mum that sometimes forgets to say hello <harassed>

BananasInBloomers Thu 08-Mar-12 20:33:18

I usually am a bit 'blah' about the school run but today we had some very tragic news about one of the mums who was also my friend. The show of support and just general 'there for each other' feeling kind of united everyone.

Posey Thu 08-Mar-12 20:34:15

I'm now in my 12th year of doing the run to primary school (that's what happens when you have a big gap between your children) and have developed such thick skin they call me Mrs Rhino grin. But sometimes the thick skin is slightly thinner and it is crap, but I find myself just getting cross for being bothered by it, rather than upset or cross by what is actually going on.
A friend of mine left primary school when her youngest finished last July, after about 10 years, and misses it soooo much hmm. I have 2 more years to go and will breathe a sigh of relief when that part of my life is over.

Sparklingbrook Thu 08-Mar-12 20:35:34

Oh, I forgot about my DS2 (9) blush. He is at Middle School too so I eject him first.

I would not know who any of the other Mums were. It's great.

ladyintheradiator Thu 08-Mar-12 20:35:41

I love it, but like headfairy am a total newbie and only take DS to preschool 3 days a week. I like saying hello to people on the way, chatting to the staff and parents.

Don't hold me to this in 6 months though smile

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer Thu 08-Mar-12 20:35:45

YANBU, I've been doing school runs for 9 years now and the same old things crop up again and again. I have learnt over the years not to rely on the social side of the school run and to focus on friends outside of school, I prefer to just grab DD and go home!

BrownBoobBear Thu 08-Mar-12 20:36:18

I hate it with a passion. I could have written your post. I now arrive at the last minute, leave them at the gate and run. Can't be arsed with all the politics at all. So long as my kids are happy, I'm happy.

Sparklingbrook Thu 08-Mar-12 20:38:00

When DS1 started in Reception I used to see the Year 4 Mums outside the gates looking well grumpy. Then last year I realised I had turned into one and was watching the Reception Mums all jolly and interested, just as I had been. sad

Snakeonaplane Thu 08-Mar-12 20:38:21

Oh posey I have this to come, I'm going to be doing it foreversad eldest dd will be in final year of prep when dd starts, I'm already over the parties and the chat and the etiquette stuff compared to mums of pfbs with ds who has just started reception, I'm going to be a total bitch with dd2, I'll be the one slowing down outside play centres to boot 4yo dd out of the car to attend the party on her owngrin

Nesty Thu 08-Mar-12 20:39:31

YANBU Our school is at the other end of the scale just stand there awkwardly looking at each other no one talking bizarre smile

BananasInBloomers Thu 08-Mar-12 20:39:41

I wonder what sort of school gate mum I am?
I'm definetly not a yummy mummy,or popular mummy,or PA mummy.

SauvignonBlanche Thu 08-Mar-12 20:44:23

I'm a 'who the hell is that?' mummy. wink

ladywithnomanors Thu 08-Mar-12 20:44:42

I like the school run! It's a small village school, everyone knows each other and most people are really friendly and chatty. We got round to each others houses afterwards and have coffee and cake. We also go out as a group at weekend to the pub and get pissed. smile

Sparklingbrook Thu 08-Mar-12 20:45:28

That's what it should be like lady. envy

mynameis Thu 08-Mar-12 20:48:26

I stupidly worked out that I will have done 21 years of school run at the primary school by the time Dc 4 leaves. sad
Damn these big age gaps grin

BrownBoobBear Thu 08-Mar-12 20:49:16

21 years. You get less for murder wink

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