I would really appreciate opinions on this issue. Sorry it's long!
Husband works full time, I dont work at all. He hates his job. I have looked for work to fit around children (no family to help) but no success. Did see early evening job advertised but H said "that means I will be stuck with the kids every night".
Our income had reduced as I used to work then claimed incapacity benefit (now stopped) as had breast cancer and other health probs.
have put loads of weight on due to medication. I'm swimming twice a week during the day and recently started couple exercise classes and slimming club in the evening. These are only 1 hour classes.
Husband has been moody for a few days about my "going out all the time".
First he questions the cost of the classes, I tell him the cost and say I will cut down on any luxuries I have, make up, hair cuts etc.
He then asks why should he be looking after the children after being at work all day. I tell him I will take them with me to the classes.
He then says that he might like to do some classes himself so I tell him go ahead. I've mentioned to him many times about doing something himself. He then says, how will I find the time to do some classes (?).
I then tell him okay I will stop slimming club and exercise classes. His response is "do what you like", and that I should discuss with him first about doing anything in the evening instead of just telling him about it.
Who is BU?
The children end up being caught in the middle of this. He tells me in front of them that I am being moody and that I read too much into what he says and that he has not asked me to give up anything. He then says that I am gaslighting him!!
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Is my husband being unreasonable?
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stroppyhusband · 08/03/2012 13:35
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