to think DD1 is faking a sicky

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

This is long story, I need to recap why I think she's faking it.

Last week, she was off Monday and Tuesday with a 'bladder infection', in the morning of both days she was heading off to the loo very regularly but as the day went on she went less and less. On the Tuesday she was on the computer all afternoon from lunch and didn't go once - all that time up until I went to get her younger siblings from schools. Yes I was keeping note of the time because I was a bit suspicious at that point.

On the Wednesday I made her go to school, I got a call from school later that morning saying she'd been sick so she was sent home from school. I was out at the time, school stuck her in a taxi and sent her to me, I went for lunch in a cafe and she happily tucked in to a big portion of jacket potato with tuna mayo.

Thursday she went to school, wasn't sick once, but on Thursday night she was sick on her duvet, it looked like yellow bile.

Friday she was off, wasn't sick once. Saturday she looked a bit peaky but wasn't sick at all, also Sunday.

Monday she went to school, came black claiming she'd felt ill all day but made no claim of being sick.

Tuesday I got a phone call from the school, she'd been sick again. She got sent home. She wasn't sick at all the rest of Tuesday. Wednesday she claimed to feel ill, I kept her off but she wasn't sick at all.

This morning, while she was getting dressed again she was sick. Definitely this time, there was patch of phlegmy looking stuff on her bedroom floor.

I think it's odd that she's only sick at school, or the night/morning before school and after writing it all down I'm even more convinced she's faking it, I've asked her if she's having any problems at school, if she's being bullied. She's said no.

At the minute she's lying in bed and refusing to get up. I want to phone the school up and tell them my concerns, and that as far as I'm concerned there's nothing wrong with her but she's refusing to get up, and also if they know if she's having problems in any areas. AIBU?

[LaurieFairyCake]

Refusing to get up probably means not sick and it's about something else. Definitely talk to the school - you need them on board if she's school refusing.

How old is she?

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

She's 14.

[LaurieFairyCake]

Also if I suspect a child isn't sick I make it quite boring for them at home - no taking out for nice lunches, no computer time, no special food and crucially no 'attention' - just lots of sleep and dark rooms.

[puds11]

defo sounds a bit suspicious. When i have bladder infections im in the toilet every 5mins and crying from the pain.
i think there is an underlying problem, although it may not be bullying. Maybe work stress? i know i used to fake sickness because i wanted to spend time with my dad

[Mrsjay]

if she is brining up bile or phlem then she is sick unless she is making herself ill , did you have her at the drs for her bladder infection maybe still hanging on her , ? I also have to agree with home sick if you are sick you cant faff about ont he computer you cant go for lunch and you stay on the sofa or in bed ,

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

hehe, yes that sounds like a good stratgey :)

[RosieBooBoo]

I had a bladder infection for a few days, hardly went to the toilet but started being sick and it turned into a 4 day stay in hospital as the infection spread to my kidneys. Has she been to see the GP?

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

no I didn't take her to the doctors re. the bladder infection,

[oldaninpurple]

Do you think she's deliberately making herself sick on those occassions you are sure of?

I think a quick trip to the GP maybe helpful. If she's not keen on you being involved, explain you will go in with her and tell the Dr your concerns but then back out to let her talk to the GP on her own if that's what she wants.

Is she eating properly? Has she had a cold recently? Does she have a wide social circle? Is there a boyfriend?

All things I think I would be thinking about rather than that she was faking it.

[MissTapestry]

Surely a trip to the gp would answer your question better than posting on here?

[Mrsjay]

I would take her to the Dr she might have a kidney infection and it can make you feel rank i have Kidney problems and when i have an infection I feel ill and am sick , Take her then you can get that out the way she might be ill and not throwing a sickie ,

[RosieBooBoo]

Doesnt a bladder infection usually require ab's?

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

right, I'm going to get her checked out at the doctors, that is what I will do. I didn't consider a kidney infection, and I'd like to rule it out.

[Mrsjay]

Is she eating ok ? because when you said she was sick it sounded like there was nothing in her stomach , and was just bile ( sorry to be so gross )

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

Rosie, I should have said cystitis, I have a bad habit of using bladder infection interchangeably with cystitis. I tend to assume cystitis at first, and only if the symptoms worsen, then we go to the doctors. Re. DD1, the symptoms went away after 2 days.

Mrsjay, yes and no, sometimes she's eating properly, other times she's picking at her food. Last night she ate a healthy portion of dinner, this morning she picked at a piece of toast and didn't finish it.

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

heh, I've been ninja'd.

[BOMsback]

I think she's making herself sick - this is really gross but smell her fingers...

If you are sick with bile/ phelm you can get to the toilet - it's the really sicky, projectile stuff that comes up involuntarily.

Take her to the doctors, just to rule out a kidney infection. Then take her for a cake and a coffee and have a heart to heart, there's something going on - i'm sure of it.

Good luck x

[Mrsjay]

yes there is something going on I agree i do think she needs a trip to the drs , maybe have a chat to her today is she still in bed maybe leave her there for now and when she gets up ask how she is feeling etc .

[BOMsback]

don't be obvuious about the fingers - if it's an eating disorder you don't want her to feel assused as you'll drive her underground. if you can small them subtly then great - a little kiss on the hand maybe..? Or if not just look at them discreetly. They might have bit marks on or be wet, or have sicky nails etc...

[moonhoney]

Why is she barfing on the floor?
Give her a bowl and then you can see what she is bringing up.

And take her to the doctor, remember to take a sample of urine.

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

great advice, thanks. She has a doctors appointment this afternoon and after that we'll head off to the nearest coffee shop, if the doctor doesn't find anything that is.

[BOMsback]

I'm sorry, that post was littered with spelling and grammatical errors - I have new false nails today and am pretty much crippled by them

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

Update, she does have a bladder infection and a sample of her wee has been sent off for further testing. She's been given uber strong anti-biotics.

Big thank you to the people who pointed out she could have a kidney infection etc with those symptoms.

[BOMsback]

That's great you got it sorted xx