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to show I am asexual by wearing a black ring?

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asiatic Thu 16-Feb-12 19:03:42

Lots of asexuals wear a black ring on their right middle finger. I'm thinking of getting one. What do you thinK? Have you ever seen anyone wearing one? How would you respond to a policeman, or bus driver or teacher advertising that they are asexual? I'm thinking it might be a helpful message to avoid misunderstandings, or is it something you don't really want to know about a stranger? Would it influence your perception of other aspects of them?

dawntigga Thu 16-Feb-12 19:05:11

I think I speak for many when I say this:



ecclesvet Thu 16-Feb-12 19:05:20

I'd think it was some sort of goth thing, tbh. Haven't ever heard of it being a signal of asexuality.

Choufleur Thu 16-Feb-12 19:05:29

I wouldn't know what it meant. Not exactly sure what you mean by asexual tbh.

LaBoccaDellaVerita Thu 16-Feb-12 19:05:43

Why can't you just keep it to yourself? I don't want to know your preferences and why would anyone else want to either?


ThePieSmuggler Thu 16-Feb-12 19:05:43

I wouldn't know that's what it meant, have never heard of this before. I'll be interested to see what others say though. Sorry, not the most helpful post!

ChickensHaveNoLips Thu 16-Feb-12 19:06:23

Do they? I have no particular idea why someone would feel the need to impart such knowledge. Misunderstandings like what?

lisaro Thu 16-Feb-12 19:06:29

Never heard of it, and frankly couldn't give a shit!

GreenEyesAndHam Thu 16-Feb-12 19:06:38

I'd think…

absolutely nowt.

Never heard of the ring/ asexuality thing and wouldn't give a shiny shite anyway

Frikadellen Thu 16-Feb-12 19:06:38

Honestly I dont care what peoples sexual orientation is and the same would go under asexual for me.

ValarMorghulis Thu 16-Feb-12 19:06:45

It is akin to wearing a sticker on your shoulder blade saying "i am gay"

most people wouldn't notice it, and even if they did they probably would't have any idea as to what it meant.

and even those that do, woudln't care.

I don't see why you feel you should advertise the fact you are Asexual?

cheesesarnie Thu 16-Feb-12 19:07:33

wouldnt bother me if anyone wanted to label themselves.
not seen anyone wear one but i live in deepest darkest cornwall-we'll catch up in a few years.
if its something you want to do,go for it!smile

imoanruby Thu 16-Feb-12 19:07:45

I would have no idea what it meant and to be honest i would not care - why do you think it would help people to know this about you?

LaBoccaDellaVerita Thu 16-Feb-12 19:07:47

<<<nods>>> @ chickens - what kind of misunderstandings? Do you mean like the staff in Asda asking if you go like the clappers or what?

FFS again.

OTheHugeManatee Thu 16-Feb-12 19:08:17

I'm not sure I see why you'd bother. I mean, I can see the point of the handkerchief code but asexuals are by definition not trying to pull so why bother signalling your absence of sexuality? No other bugger is going to know what you're on about, and it's hardly as though you're going to spot a black ring, tip another asexual the wink and then nip off into the bushes on Hampstead Heath for a furtive, breathless game of Scrabble.

Megatron Thu 16-Feb-12 19:08:18

It wouldn't influence my opinion of you one way or another tbh. Some people may not know it's significance, others may feel it's irrelevant. It's up to you, if it's important to you then wear one. smile Do you feel you need to wear one to 'advertise' (wrong word I know but I can't think of another) your asexuality?

MooncupandPizza Thu 16-Feb-12 19:08:22

If I hadn't read this thread, I wouldn't have known that a black ring on the middle right finger had any significance.
Having read this thread, I'll probably be on the lookout for it for a few days before forgetting the significance again.

I think it's odd to want to advertise your asexuality. If you receive unwanted advances, then you can just rebuff them the same way as anyone else would, surely.

And I know people advertise their marital status with rings but that's not qutie the same as their sexuality or asexuality.

GrittersWifeAndProud Thu 16-Feb-12 19:08:41

Plants are asexual. That means they don't need a mate to reproduce. So how the hell can a person be asexual? confused hmm

catgirl1976 Thu 16-Feb-12 19:08:54


people would care because?

KatieScarlett2833 Thu 16-Feb-12 19:09:25

It would depend on whether it is a nice black ring or not.

If it were nice I'd want to know where you got it.

If it were ugly I would ignore your bad taste in costume jewellery.


BertieBotts Thu 16-Feb-12 19:09:31

I've seen someone who wears one, I knew the symbol as I used to post on aven.

Didn't make me think anything TBH, other than "I wonder if he is asexual or he just likes wearing that ring there?" - I'm in a relationship so it wouldn't make a difference to me.

seeker Thu 16-Feb-12 19:09:37

Oh, I don't know. It might be useful to know that the bus driver was asexual -it would save me wasting time propositioning him/her.......hmm

ChickensHaveNoLips Thu 16-Feb-12 19:09:43

Instead of a ring to show you're not up for it, just wear a wolf fleece and stop brushing your teeth. Instant nookie repellent <helpful>

countessbabycham Thu 16-Feb-12 19:11:22

it wouldn't influence what i think of others,whether bad or good.

if it makes you more comfortable that's a good enough reason and my opinion doesn't count.

KatieScarlett2833 Thu 16-Feb-12 19:11:25

Or wear those trackies that Sir Paul is wearing on the other thread, That is just as good as a wolf fleece in repelling advances from men, women, dogs....

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