in thinking Valentines Day is utterly shit and we'd be better off without it?

[hatesponge]

Or am I just being a miserable cow?!

My facebook is FULL of bollocksy Valentines stuff...oh my lovely boyfriend/DP/husband's run me a bath/cooked my dinner/bought me some overpriced tat etc etc. Complete pile of crap...being grateful for 4 inches of hot water and some bath foam ffs?!

Or stupid messages between the two of them - massively irritating when you're friends with both and they come up twice. Why the need to write on FB to someone in the same house as you?

I am off sick today, which at least has spared me the usual parade of huge bunches of flowers etc by my female colleagues which passes for Valentines Day at work. Oh, and the inane questions from them as to what I got...nothing of course. Just like each and every one of the last 39 years. But it's not that which irritates, it's the faux sympathy accompanied by the head tilt 'Oh well that IS a shame, but I'm sure you'll find someone soon'

Would anyone dare to ask how many birthday presents and cards you got? Or Xmas? Then why is Valentines like some popularity parade, where if you don't get anything you're clearly not one of the master race, just some sad lonely fucker.

My 13 year old DS was in tears earlier, because he was the only one of his friends who didn't get a card. and what could I tell him, not much because judging by my experience he'd better get used to another 26 years or so of disappointment....

I honestly cant see what the point of it is, it only makes people feel bad. Unless you're in the greeting card/flower business I can't see any benefit whatsoever.

[IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll]

YABU.

Valentines day is supposed to be angsty for teenagers, we have all been there! It does not only make people feel bad, it makes many people feel loved and special too. If it wasn't hard in the teenage years we wouldn't appreciate how lovely it is when we are older.

[MissSayuri]

I'm with you. Load of shit. I haven't seen DP all day as we are on differing shifts today. Also, if her DARED to write on my FB wall anything at all ever ever ever I'd leave him. WHY do couples do that? Pointless.

[NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes]

Tell him that half of his friends sent themselves the cards and the other half got them from their mothers.

[DavidaCottonmouth]

Are you a teenager, OP?

[hatesponge]

I don't agree Valentines Day somehow becomes some wonderful thing once you're older. I have never had a Valentines card or present. Ever. I can't believe I'm the only one.

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

I feel your pain Hatesponge. Been single for six years and by 9.30am this morning, after listening to local radio and watching a bit of tv, I was completely pissed off with the whole thing as it was practically all they were talking about. I also get the 'you'll meet someone soon' bullshit on a regular basis from people who have no idea whether or not that's what I actually want.

Oh well, tomorrow's another day .

[DialMforMummy]

YANBU Valentines day is bollocks. Doing something special out of the blue for your OH on any other random day is way more romantic IMO.
Mind you when I was a student I had once a BF who turned up naked at my door holding a single flower saying he offered me his body for VD. That was nice

[hatesponge]

I'm 39, so rather a long way from being a teenager.

I tried that approach re cards, he didnt believe me. And in any event he doesn't care, he just wanted one himself. and so the tyranny of Valentines Day begins...

[Birthdaybump2012]

I'm with you too.
As a teenager I was always gutted as I didn't have anything or panicing as to what to get someone. If you are spending it alone you have to feel like crap because it just follows you everywhere.
Now I have Dh so it's not so bad but we never really celebrate it.
I am dreading when my Dcs get old enough so that this stuff bothers them.

[DrCoconut]

14-02-12 = 0. Valentine's day cancelled!

[hatesponge]

I suppose if I had ever received anything for Valentines Day I might be less cynical.

As it is, the whole thing just seems like a day of one-upmanship for the attached.

I probably should be grateful it is only one day of the year!

[Backtobedlam]

YANBU, however, if id been one of those that had received roses, a bath ran for them or something similar, I'm sure my opinion would be changed.

[solidgoldbrass]

It's grim for teens, I agree (hated it myself as a teenager, so much anquish and anticipation and disappointment). But a lot of things about being a teenager are grim and we all get through them somehow.
As for VD, it does slightly irritate me how everyone's supposed to engage with it, when for a lot of people it's about as relevant as Ramadan is to non-muslims. Mind you, it's been another example for me to use when educating DS about ritual days and festival days, and how it's fine to pick and choose which ones you want to mark and which ones you're not interested in.

[MaybeSheWill]

I think the problem is less Valentines, and more the assholes of this world. If we could just get away with setting fire to the assholes it wouldn't be so bad.

Sorry for being so flippant, I'm finding VD difficult myself for differing reasons. One day I'll get that flamethrower, then we'll all be sorted.

I feel for you DS though OP, I was that kid. In a couple of years time it won't matter a bit but he won't get that now. My DS is a young 13, and at an all boy's school so we're not there yet but I'm sure it's coming. VD is utterly pointless really, it's a shame we all let it get to us.

[LaurieFairyCake]

There's nothing to dislike in this house - yet another day we get to celebrate all the love in the house.

[mrsmplus3]

I dont really care about vd either. My husband made me a card which was quite sweet but because I'm pissed off with him just now for several very good reasons I didn't bother getting him one. I feel a bit bad now but it's done now. We're a real couple with good times and bad, a card today is not going to make or break the relationship. If it did, it would be a pretty weak relationship. But each to their own, I don't care what others do or don't do. Although talking to each other through Facebook is just weird and immature to me.