DS is 21mo. BIL has bought him a quad bike for Christmas. He phoned me just after he bought it and said that he'd got it even though he knew I wouldn't like it. I don't like it. We don't have space for it, we don't live close enough to a park for DS to be able to get much use out of it and I really don't want to set a precedent for buying expensive presents for DS when we made it clear to family last year that we are in favour of keeping presents simple.
This isn't the first time this has happened. Last Christmas FIL called me to say he was thinking of buying DS a sit-in baby walker. I said thankyou but we had looked into baby walkers and didn't want one for DS because of xyz reason. He bought it anyway and brought it round and was then offended when DH asked him to take it back. MIL called me earlier this year to say she had bought DS a ride-in car. DH asked her to take it back for exactly the same reasons as we don't want the quad bike.
I feel awful keeping on asking the ILs to take presents back as I was brought up that you receive any presents gracefully, no matter how awful you might think them, and that it is bad manners to do anything else, but I'm also feeling quite cross with BIL for knowingly putting us in this situation again. MIL has already told me not to tell him to take it back because he's so excited about giving it to DS but I feel that they are completely disregarding our wishes in favour of making a big show. If DS gets it BIL will want to see him on it and ask about it over and over. AIBU to ask him to take it back?
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AKMD · 15/12/2011 12:49
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