My gran has alzhemiers, and this developed when there were a few rifts in the family shall we say.
Basically my father is her next of kin these days, as his only brother ripped her off for loads of money before going awol. NO ONE has seen him in 4 years at least (theres an outstanding police warrant too so i mean no one). gran lives near her sister, but dad lives abroad so she does day to day etc as nana is used to seeing her all the time.
Social services call us when theres anything like consents needed (like for anestetic when she broke her hip) and I ferry calls etc, but on advice from her doctors as she is violent etc (she was sectioned, it took a few police to get her in the ambulance) we dont visit very much. Last time my brother went she had to be sedated after as she was screaming at him that he wasnt him an imposter etc. Last birthday call she was telling my dad to pay them whatever ransom they wanted etc. I know its waffle but its just so you understand we are interested but not local and its all on doctors advice we dont visit etc.
There was a family bust up earlier in the year when sister and her H went in to the home with a priest and got her to sign over her bank accounts, so now dad doesnt deal with them. He doesnt have the money to go for them legally over it unfortunately, and not much we can do without we've been told.
Now, its 10 days until Christmas and sisters H has sent me her funeral arrangements.No care that its a total shock that her funeral has been arranged let alone done without us!! not to mention the arrangements are bollocks. AIBU to be really upset at the first I'm told of this is opening a letter and pulling out a fucking funeral plan!?! and this time of year too! This man is family, his W if my godmother as well as my GAunt and all i get is a slip of paper saying please forward this to your father. They have my number, his number. My cousins also live nearer Gran and have me & dad on FB so all I can assume is either they werent aware of this "plan" or didnt bother tell me or dad either!!
(sorry for any spelling mistakes etc, TBH here on my own and really upset so not best typing conditions)
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to be utterly offended and upset at my family.
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MrsTwinks · 15/12/2011 11:52
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