WIBU to smirk at this display of loud parenting at school today?

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ItsSnowDarling Tue 06-Dec-11 23:49:22

Picture the scene - End of the day outside reception. Parent who is well known for parenting loudly and ensuring everyone knows how advanced her son is arrives.

Examples of loud parenting in the past include:
- her son always carries his reading book in his hand so we can all see which one it is, instead of putting it in his bag like the rest of us.
- talking loudly to the teacher daily about his achievements.
- inviting children over for "reading" dates when they were in nursery!
- singing Jolly Phonics in the playground.

Anyway tomorrow is the nativity, of course we all know that her son will be playing Joseph, so did she really need to throw her arms open as she arrived and exclaim loudly "I'm here, where's Joseph" - I managed to hold back the snort, but I really struggled with the smirk, which may have been a bit too obvious.

So was I reasonable or is the truth that I am just jealous that her DS is far superior to mine?

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WorraLiberty Tue 06-Dec-11 23:52:53

OMG YANBU at all! grin

'Reading dates' WTF??? shock

SlinkingOutsideInSocks Tue 06-Dec-11 23:53:22

grin YANBU, of course you're not.

But be prepared to be slaughtered on this thread, by those who will deem you jealous, as well as those who parent loudly themselves and think it is their God-given right to do so without judgment from others.

Good luck. wink

WorraLiberty Tue 06-Dec-11 23:54:56

I've parented loudly in the past

But it's been more along the lines of "WILL YOU HURRY UP AND STOP DRAGGING YOUR FEET...WE'RE GOING TO BE LATE!!"

grin does that count?

dontrememberme Tue 06-Dec-11 23:55:49

pmsl, really omg she sounds like a nutter. Would i be really unkind to hope that little Joseph pukes mid nativity! grin

ItsSnowDarling Tue 06-Dec-11 23:57:23

It's nearly midnight, I can't sleep and I was still chuckling about it - jealous I am most definitely not!

I thought it'd be a good opportunity to try out my Christmas name - not that it's a very good one.

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ItsSnowDarling Tue 06-Dec-11 23:59:06

I was going for a trip head first into the manager, but puking would do!

WorraLiberty that is my kind of parenting too.

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Triggles Tue 06-Dec-11 23:59:17

I would've snorted. Probably quite loudly. I'm horrible that way. grin

ItsSnowDarling Wed 07-Dec-11 00:01:04

To be honest she does come across as being at bit nuts and needy.

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WorraLiberty Wed 07-Dec-11 00:02:49

On a more sinister note....

Years ago when my DS was about 5yrs, he said his friend's Mum used to keep quizzing him about which table he was on and what level of work he was given, how many times tables he knew and what reading level he was on etc....

I knew she was a bit like that so I told him to just answer politely and vaguely if he felt awkward.

Anyway, he went to her house for tea after school on the day they got their school reports, and when he got home it had been opened shock angry

She 'claimed' she opened the wrong book bag...despite it being a completely different colour to her son's, and 'accidentally' opened my son's report too hmm

susiedaisy Wed 07-Dec-11 00:02:53

I hate her alreadygrin

lurkinginthebackground Wed 07-Dec-11 00:06:01

wow-reading dates!!!

She sounds crazy, ignore her.

ItsSnowDarling Wed 07-Dec-11 00:08:01

Now that is cheeky, I would've been quite furious.

I really can't stand the competitive parenting at school, luckily I developed a thick skin with DS1 and I can rise above it with dignity!

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ItsSnowDarling Wed 07-Dec-11 00:11:19

I will add that it wasn't my child that was invited for the reading date. A conversation between her and another parent was overheard by several of us at pick-up time - surprisingly I have kept my distance ever since.

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WorraLiberty Wed 07-Dec-11 00:11:35

I was livid and she knew it too!

It would have helped if her son wasn't so lovely because I would have been quite happy to never send my son to her house again.

But her boy was so nice despite her pushy behaviour.

He's nearly 20 now and oddly enough, he's the most laid back 'hippy type' I've ever met...caring far more about people than money and success.

ItsSnowDarling Wed 07-Dec-11 00:19:25

WorraLiberty that is a nice ending.

My DS is in a small class and tells me that this particular boy plays with the girls, because the boys don't like him. I've told him several times that I find it very sad and I have been encouraging him to be friends - I'd hate one of my children to be in that situation. He has made an effort, but I am told as reliably as you can be by a 4 year old that he doesn't like to play (the boy that is and not my DS).

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VonHerrBurton Wed 07-Dec-11 00:25:34


Reading Dates - pmsl, how hilarious!

Can just picture ds' faces 'Johnny wants to invite you round for a reading date, darling'

<cue the small VonHerrBurtons legging it>

WorraLiberty Wed 07-Dec-11 00:43:50

You can only encourage him so much Snow before you have to let them be friends with who ^they choose really sad

Von I have a mental image of the Richard and Judy book club for under 5's grin

Pixel Wed 07-Dec-11 00:53:30

I've got a friend who irritates me by always wanting to know what all the children got in their reports because she knows that her ds will have got top for everything (which she will try and fail to look surprised about). She used to ask very loudly in the playground so that people would be caught out and feel compelled to mutter an answer. Talk about competitive. I personally don't give a stuff what reports other peoples' children get and wouldn't dream of asking.

GiserableMitt Wed 07-Dec-11 02:48:04

Pixel, I would feel compelled to lie and say my child had got top marks in every subject.

ShengdanRoad Wed 07-Dec-11 03:56:13

The idea of competitive parents puts me off having DC. Is it really this bad? Does it happen everywhere?

CheerfulYank Wed 07-Dec-11 04:05:57

Yes but not to that extent. No one here asks about report cards.

Yourefired Wed 07-Dec-11 04:07:24

YANBU to smirk away on here, but yes so in rl. Sounds like a very stressed-out mother doing her best, but mucking it up completely. I wince a little when I think what the school gate holds for her and her DS in the next few years if she keeps this up. Ps, you don't sound jealous.

troisgarcons Wed 07-Dec-11 05:22:56

Those sorts of mothers (in my experience) are usually those who have had trouble conceiving and therefore their world revolves round, quite unhealthily, their offspring when they get them.

lifechanger Wed 07-Dec-11 05:44:15

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