Like another poster tonight (who got me thinking) I've also told dp im not marrying him he first proposed wheel ds1 was born but asked me not to tell anyone till I had a ring , he gave me a ring 3 years later a few months later we booked a venue and then I found out I was pg so cancelled.
2 months later I miscarried I wanted to re arrange wedding for a few months later to give me something to focus on, he didn't want to tell anyone / do anything to arrange / save for it. Meantime his bf decides to get married in the same month wed originally booked for AND he was expecting a baby with his gf irrational as this seems to me who'd just gone through a mc I was gutted and felt like if dp cared he'd want to arrange to get married to me.
If anyone asked comments on our long engagement he always tells them well prob get married next year and tells them theyll be invited and talks about how he'd rather wait to save up for a big wedding. Yet he's not Intrested in the practicalltys of actully saving up / suggests my parents could pay.
Anyway I got pg again so now we've ben together nearly 7 years with now2 kids and no wedding he now says that he doesn't want to get married till he's 30 (4 years ) I say screw it im not Intrested anymore well just live together I'll get no monetry advantage from being married and I hate the feeling he's in charge of when/if we get married.
And it hurts me that we've been together this long with 2 kids and he doesn't seem to actully want to get married and to watch numerous couples get married after a year or so together and having the special day/ being husband and wife . I don't wear my ring cause I feel silly about wearing it yet not being properly engaged
Aibu to answer people who ask when were getting married with never?
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Notnapping · 30/11/2011 21:31
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