Who to address a bloomin letter to for a job application . I know the womans name but I dont know if she is married or not . So HELP What do I write after Dear . I dont want to write Mrs if she is not . I dont want to write Ms . This is a headteacher Im writing to so I really need to get it write . I knoe her first name but this seems too friendly if you get what I mean . TIA
Ms of course, that's the default unless indicated otherwise.
why wouldn't you 'want' to use it? It's not an insult you know, she'll know you are not accusing her of being a hairy-legged divorcee, if that's what you are worried about, she'll just see a title used correctly.
Ms is the default, but in a job advert you need to put what the addressee wants.
It's not an insult you know, she'll know you are not accusing her of being a hairy-legged divorcee, if that's what you are worried about, she'll just see a title used correctly. Unfortunately some women don't like it and the OP is right to find you how she wants to be addressed and use that form.
If for some bizarre reason an educated professional woman takes offence at a perfectly correct title she would make it plain what she does wish to be addressed as. It would be on the job advert. The fact that it's not suggests the Headteacher expects applicants to just get on with it, and not make mountains out of molehills fretting about possible husbands at home, their existance cruelly deemed irrelevent by incidental contacts in their DW's professional life.
I can't see the head teacher stressing over the title, particularly given the high volume of applications she's likely to receive. I would, however, take the time to spell and grammar check, remembering that spell check won't pick up incorrectly spelt words if the incorrect word is in the dictionary, e.g. using 'write' for 'right'.
It wouldn't take much effort to find out whether she is a miss or a mrs ad it could make a difference. Some people really don't like being called Ms - depends how traditional her views are. If you google the school the head teacher details are bound to be listed or, like someone else said, a simple call to the school office (without having to identify yourself or your reason!) would do the trick.