Background: SIL got married recently, and is itching to get us round to watch the video. I have already been subjected to seen it and DP is of the opinion he was there so why does he need to sit through a 2 hour video.
Fast forward to this afternoon. Had a lovely afternoon at MIL's, SIL was there, talk turned to DP's friends birthday on Monday. I said "I really don't fancy it..can't you wheel out the old excuse about it interfering with DD's routine?" I then turned to SIL (who has no children yet) and said "You'd be amazed at the boring shit I've managed to get out of with that one - she's fine having a night out of routine really but they don't need to know that". All jovial and smiley and consipiritorially with SIL at this point.
We left shortly after, and I did think SIL was a bit quiet, then, as we drove off DP informs me that he had, in fact, used this very excuse to get out of going round there tomorrow night for dinner and wedding video viewing yesterday and not told me 
I am mortified, feel awful and genuinely don't know what to say to make it any better....any suggestions?
AIBU?
to emigrate in order to avoid ever having to face SIL again?
BalloonTwister · 05/11/2011 19:31
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Just look on it as a good tip for parenting when it is her turn. Consider yourself as helping her out 
Just consider that you have got the point across that not everyone wants to watch someone elses wedding video, without actually having to say it or do anything wrong. Your sil will know that you didn't know your DH had used the excuse, so if anything, she will be upset with him, not you. And you may well have saved other people from the trauma of a two hour wedding video.
Why in the world would your sil want to do that anyway? 
SIL is only 23, and the wedding was a teensy bit precious. I think she's feeling a bit flat now it's all over. Personally I don't think it would have killed us to go, but DP isn't overly fond of her at the best of times and thought the wedding was totally OTT. I just wish he'd TOLD me we'd been invited.
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As soon as I saw what you said to her I knew what was coming next! Better go some where very very far away.
... /Excellent. Where are you emigrating to, OP?
Oooh, thats a good idea, thanks Claimed. Perhaps, as revenge, I should organise it on a night when I'm at work and DP is at home with DD - after all, I have already seen it!
I'm considering Australia or NZ at the moment Lying, unless you have a better hot and sunny location to recommend? 
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YANBU at all
Claimed's idea might be cheaper more diplomatic though.
Somebody very kindly videoed my wedding and I couldn't bear to sit through it! How many times must SIL have seen it? 
YANBU
I like claimed suggestion if only because you are going to be in each others lives for a long time.
Someone I worked with had quite a cool 5 min edited highlights version of his wedding video that a friend had put together, do you know anyone who could do that for your SIL or maybe it is something you could get done online. By the sounds of it it could save a lot of people a lot of time.
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