My fil is a total control freak. We have a 'difficult' relationship given i can't be controlled!
My ds(7) is not his biological grandchild and so hardly sees him as he is often at his dads when we see them, just the way it works out.
So they are visiting us at the moment, staying nearby. We were all over at their place having tea, all 3 kids having a carry on around the table. Next thing i hear my FIL saying to my son, 'do you want to stay here?, do you want to apologise?' In a really stern voice whilst staring hard at my ds. Ds looking confused at the question says 'em yes' fil says 'well apologise' ds says 'er i just did' (because he clearly thinks saying yes was apologising) and i can feel my ds squirming. He then says 'sorry' but in a 'im guessing this is what i have to say, not sure what i did wrong sort of way'.
It would seem he was repeating what my fil said, in a mocking way, as kids do, they do it to me, it is irritating. BUT given they hardly see him and they don't really have a great bond with him, i felt he was completely ott. I wanted to scoop my ds up and take him home. FIL finished off by saying 'one thing i cant stand is 'dumb ignorance'.
One thing i cant stand-him.
He was all jokey and full of fun with them, encouraging them to say 'right away' instead of please etc and then turns on ds when he was in his head just continuing with the fun.
AIBU feeling really uncomfortable with this??? I dont condone my DC's being rude but this was completely inconsistent.
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iambach · 26/10/2011 22:46
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