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annalicious Mon 24-Oct-11 19:24:11

Good evening, I am a new member with a slight concern! I am the Mum of a seven year old beautiful daughter, who is often getting left out from schoolfriends lives due to the fact that I (a very busy mummy) don't have time to stand in the playground with the rest of the clicky mums gossipping! I find it very sad that my daughter falls foul to such shameful adult behaviour..........................Am I being paranoid, no this is really happening?! Help

RedHelenB Mon 24-Oct-11 19:25:58

What exactly is she missing out on?

benandhollyandgaston Mon 24-Oct-11 19:27:36

I have no idea.

You are talking as though you think you're superior to those other Mum's though. Perhaps they're picking up on that attitude from you?

NinkyNonker Mon 24-Oct-11 19:32:43

Are they not busy? Are you not a mum as well? Are they a different species? These threads always puzzle me, the assumption that you are different/smarter/less superficial/busier etc etc than others who are probably just normal people, like you.

Disclaimer: am not the greatest mixer and have no school age children.

Are they genuinely awful in terms of proven behaviour or are you just assuming?

NearlyLeglessEuphemia Mon 24-Oct-11 19:33:17

I'm in the same position, and I'm afraid it's something you have to put up with unless you're willing to do most of the inviting.

I've written notes for DD's friends to pass to their parents, with an invitation to play, or whatever, and my mobile number.

BluddyMoFo Mon 24-Oct-11 19:34:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

annalicious Mon 24-Oct-11 19:37:34

She has a twin, who gets to be invited everywhere?????????????????

5ofus Mon 24-Oct-11 19:38:42

Eh?

annalicious Mon 24-Oct-11 19:38:52

She does invite her friends over, that's the thing

Pagwatch Mon 24-Oct-11 19:39:33

I am not sure you are quite getting to the root of what is happening here.

I guess it depends what you want. Do you want your dd to get more invitations or do you want to criticise and dislike the other mothers?

NearlyLeglessEuphemia Mon 24-Oct-11 19:39:43

I'm lost.

IneedAbetterNickname Mon 24-Oct-11 19:40:06

Is there such thing as an unbusy Mummy? If she has a twin who gets invited everywhere, then it surely can't have anything to do with you???

NinkyNonker Mon 24-Oct-11 19:40:17

Well there is your answer. If her twin gets invited places then it isn't you, obviously.

BluddyMoFo Mon 24-Oct-11 19:40:29

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activate Mon 24-Oct-11 19:41:13

Yes - that's what happens (no, not being sarcastic)

Do not let it bother you

In a couple of years they invite who they want

A few years later and you'll be sick of the hordes of teenagers raiding your fridge and tramping up your stairs in their huge boots

onepieceofcremeegg Mon 24-Oct-11 19:41:27

You don't have to stand "gossipping" you know. Just a smile and a cheery hello to one or two of the other parents would be a start.

I am a busy mum as well (most of us are I think) and my dds are at the wraparound sometimes before and after school; which means I'm not at the gate every day. So I make a special effort on the days I am there. (not gossiping, just pleasantly passing the time of day is fine)

What is the "shameful" behaviour that you are observing? A group of parents standing and chatting? hmm

By age 7 (year 2/3?) your dd should be starting to tell you who she would like to invite to play etc. Then you make the arrangements. Ime it's fairly simple, for example you can give your dd a note to pass to the other child, and write your mobile number on it.

If your dd isn't expressing an interest in socialising with the other children perhaps you need to find what the real issues are with her friendships.

onepieceofcremeegg Mon 24-Oct-11 19:42:53

Perhaps your daughter (the one who isn't receiving invitations) is shy/less sociable and doesn't want to be the same as her sister?

FabbyChic Mon 24-Oct-11 19:43:19

Probably have two different personalities, one twin is probably outgoing the other quieter.

The quieter one being invited out less.

TheOriginalFAB Mon 24-Oct-11 19:43:20

I was going to say I understood, as my kids don't get asked anywhere because the mums don't like me. But one girl gets asked, the other not so surely it is something to do with her..

5ofus Mon 24-Oct-11 19:43:35

OK. I'll bite. Seems like a wind up though.

Do you know any of the parents at school? Have you ever spoken with any of them? How do you know they are gossiping?

Finally what is cliquey? What is gossip?

Sounds to me like you need to make more of an effort.

annalicious Mon 24-Oct-11 19:43:50

My sentiments exactly, eh indeed

MigratingCoconuts Mon 24-Oct-11 19:44:54

I'm afraid you are going to have to explain your issues a little more clearly because just at the moment there is not enough information to go on in order to make a reply that will be of use to you

smile

NinkyNonker Mon 24-Oct-11 19:46:08

confused

Pagwatch Mon 24-Oct-11 19:46:09

Yep. I am bumfuzzled. No idea what the issue is. Except that it probably isn't clicky.

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