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or is this 'just what kids do'?

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biddysmama Sun 23-Oct-11 20:54:09

i was hanging the washing out and my 2.5 year old dd came out with me, the children next door were playing out and dd went to the fence to talk to the little boy, he started school in sept so he's 4/5ish?

i heard the boy say,"you do it now" looked up and he had his pants down showing dd his penis, i told him not to do that and took dd inside

when i told his mum she shrugged and said its just what kids do?

dd wasnt bothered, she has an older and younger brother, just wondered if it was nothing? i was expecting the other mum to be a little shocked and i'd probably have been embarrased if one of mine had done it?

worraliberty Sun 23-Oct-11 20:55:29

Yep it's definitely what some of them do grin

BlowHole Sun 23-Oct-11 20:55:56

Well it might be just what kids do, but they need to be told that it isn't appropriate. If she doesn't tell him this, he will keep doing it. Not fair on him.

SlinkingOutsideInSocks Sun 23-Oct-11 20:56:07

Mine aren't that age yet, but I understand it is pretty normal. Best just not to make a big deal about it.

lamp74 Sun 23-Oct-11 20:56:45

I'd probably tell my kid off for doing that, but I think some people seem to think that kind of things is ok... it would annoy me though...

Magneto Sun 23-Oct-11 20:58:52

At that age, I wouldn't be worried. He probably knows is rude or "naughty" and therefore hilarious.

worraliberty Sun 23-Oct-11 21:02:57

I'm not sure really Magneto

Going on a lot of threads I've read on MN, nudity seems to be totally normal in a lot of homes...with quite a few MNetters saying they and their DP's walk around naked or willingly leave the bathroom door open.

Therefore, to this little boy it could be totally normal.

Still, his Mum should have told him it was inappropriate.

TheSkiingGardener Sun 23-Oct-11 21:19:59

Sounds fairly usual, but I would expect the Mum to tell him to put it away. How else is he going to learn?

helpmabob Sun 23-Oct-11 21:24:47

I don't think that it is inappropriate for children that age. People need to relax more about nudity, especially let kids enjoy being natural before they get all drawn into the shackles of "polite society".

triskaidekaphile Sun 23-Oct-11 21:25:38

Yes, it's pretty normal. I'd have tried to sound a bit more apologetic if I'd been his mum and seen you were not pleased but it does happen. Some kids get privacy quicker than others and many find nakedness hilarious and desirable until quite late on.

BluddyMoFo Sun 23-Oct-11 21:26:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Whatmeworry Sun 23-Oct-11 21:29:07

Totally normal curiosity at that age - didn't anyone "play doctors" in their mis-spent youth?

Feminine Sun 23-Oct-11 21:33:32

My 4 brothers(when small boys) went one stage further.

One of my Dads American clients lent him wink a video camera ...shock

They confessed what they had done after he had returned it!

scarevola Sun 23-Oct-11 21:33:44

Yes, children do this a lot.

I think the best response is a rather bored "Not now, dear. Bottoms are private".

banana87 Sun 23-Oct-11 21:35:27

Yes, it is what they do. I remember showing my bits in kindergarden because the boy next to me asked me to blush. And my mom was called in and there was a meeting and I was REALLY told off!

Esta3GG Sun 23-Oct-11 21:38:41

Kids have been doing the whole "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" since the dawn of time.
Totally normal.

Whatmeworry Sun 23-Oct-11 21:39:57

DS2 stripped off nekkid with a friend in dance class when in reception, strong words were had with me as of course all the little girls were gigling and pointing very demure and upset. His stock went up 1000% with the girls of course, came home the next day complaining they all wanted to kiss him.

There is a lesson there somewhere grin

Esta3GG Sun 23-Oct-11 21:42:37


HecateGoddessOfTheNight Sun 23-Oct-11 21:43:50

oh yeah. totally normal.

boobs and bums and willies and bits, farts and poo.

Funniest things in the world to young children grin

HeadlessForHocusPocus Sun 23-Oct-11 22:04:17

When in reception my eldest dd told me she had seen her friends willy at school. When I questioned her as to why he showed her she told me it was because she had showed him her fairy first grin

I just had a quiet word about privacy, didn't make a big deal out of it, and now she is 9 and way past the flashing age smile

It's just what kids do. Maybe as she was blase about it, he's been doing it for a while and she is ignoring it (in an ignoring "bad" behaviour way)

wineoclocktimeyet Sun 23-Oct-11 22:36:05

DS2 (aged 4) current favourite pastime is jumping stark naked on the trampoline.

Apaprently, its not as much fun with your pants on.

wineoclocktimeyet Sun 23-Oct-11 22:36:52

Sorry, should have mentioned, its in the privacy of our garden wink

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