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Dh and his "have we got"?

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mrsshears Sun 23-Oct-11 19:51:49

Dh drives me insane with this,he is physically incapable of looking for anything and before making/looking for/doing anything must say "have we got"
and has just said it about bread!!!
When the hell we wouldnt have bread i really dont know but thats besides the point anyway because he knows where the bread bin is anyway.
When doing the washing "have we got fabric conditioner"? eerrr have a look?
when helping dd2 dress after a bath "has she got any pants" eerr yes a draw full,just go and get some.
He has also just come into the lounge and said "is there anything else on" to what is on tv at which point i just handed him the remote whilst thinking yes probably as there are hundreds of channels on this tv!
I do love him to bits and this thread is slightly toungue in cheek,but he needs to stop looking for me to have a part in everything that goes on in this house!>>disclaimer<<< iam 8 weeks pregnant so this may play a part in my irritation blush

borderslass Sun 23-Oct-11 19:54:18

My DH is just the same, strike that he's worse at least yours helps around house.

FourEyesGood Sun 23-Oct-11 19:55:10

Start doing it back to him. He'll realise just how annoying it is.

Hang on, though. Before you try this, maybe you should first make sure that there's nothing you do that drives him up the wall. grin

ivykaty44 Sun 23-Oct-11 19:55:39

has dd got any pants

I don't know sweetie has dd got any pants

have we got any bread

I don't know sweetie have we got any bread

is there anything else on tv

I don't know sweetie is there any other programs on the tv

elportodelgato Sun 23-Oct-11 19:56:37

I feel your pain, the refrain round here is 'have you seen...' my keys / my phone / any clean pants
Dear god why am I the person who has to know where every damn thing is in the house? Particularly someone else's keys, drives me nuts

scuzy Sun 23-Oct-11 19:56:41

i would happily answer him back if he was throwin on a wash and bathing dd etc. something i am not used to.

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern Sun 23-Oct-11 19:57:10

Have you tried the 'repeating the question technique' or the 'fucking silly answer technique'...

H: Does DD have any pants?

You: Does DD have any pants hmm

OR

H: Does DD have any pants?

You: I don't know, what do you think, does DD have any pants?

OR

H: Does DD have any pants?

You: No - I never buy her pants, she goes commando.


OR

Have you tried doing it to him?
??

mrsshears Sun 23-Oct-11 19:57:11

I leave the lights on with the best of em apparently foureyesgood grin

Unlurked Sun 23-Oct-11 19:57:25

Just say 'I don't know' every single time so he has to look and (hopefully) will get the hint and stop asking you.

Actually, before you do that, have you told him how much this annoys you?!

NatashaBee Sun 23-Oct-11 19:57:54

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yellowraincoat Sun 23-Oct-11 19:58:23

I get this constantly too. "Have we got..." "Where is my..." "Do I have any..." "Have you seen my..." "Where's the..."

It's really boring.

Witchofthenorth Sun 23-Oct-11 20:00:33

I hear you natashabee!!

My husband does the same.

mrsshears Sun 23-Oct-11 20:00:36

oh yes unlurked many times
but hes "only asking"

Sparklingbrook Sun 23-Oct-11 20:01:11

Do you also get the 'did you bring' when you go on holiday? DH is terrible for this-if he wants something he is just as capable of putting it in the case as me. Drives me mad and no pregnancy to blame!

coastgirl Sun 23-Oct-11 20:01:16

I would just answer "yes". And then stop talking. You answered the question accurately, what else does he want?

Shakey1500 Sun 23-Oct-11 20:02:25

YANBU. My dh is exactly the same but more towards paperwork/finance etc. I am happy to deal with the majority of that side of things as he's pretty useless at it, hates it anyway.

Last week he renewed his car insurance. They asked if he wanted to take advantage of 3 months free life insurance. He agreed after being told all he had to was cancel before a certain date. He relays all this to me then utters..

"So all WE have to do is remember the date and cancel it before then. The underlying thing being "YOU remember the date and YOU remember to cancel it"

I won't be.

HeresTheScaryThingBooyhoo Sun 23-Oct-11 20:02:40

probably not the right way to deal with it but i usually answer sarcastically in these instances.

like my mum this evening "do you ever make chips booyhoo?"
me;"very rarely"
mum "how do you make them, in a deep fat fryer?"
me;"yeah"
mum "oh do you have a deep fat fryer?"
me"no"
mum "well how do you make them then?"
me" i imagine one and pretend to cook them, the kids like them raw anyway"
mum "do you use a saucepan then?"
me"NO MUM!! like i said the first time, i have a deep fat fryer!" <sigh>

so in your case

"have we any bread?"
"no, why on earth would we have bread?" confused face

"have i got any socks"
"you dont own any socks dear"

HildaOgden Sun 23-Oct-11 20:02:53

The correct answer to 'Do we have bread' is :'I'm not sure darling,but I know we have ketchup' ,said in a very cheerful tone.

It will confuse him.It's always fun to confuse men who ask silly questions.

EightiesChickOrTreat Sun 23-Oct-11 20:03:32

Yes, it happens here too! Develop selective deafness and just don't answer.

Esta3GG Sun 23-Oct-11 20:05:50

I get "what have you done with....?" all the time.

The accusation being that I have somehow squirreled away everything from his bastard car keys to the garden rake to the tomato ketchup.
ALL of the contents of the house are apparently my sole responsibility. And I have apparently managed to misplace/tidy/throw out everything.

mrsshears Sun 23-Oct-11 20:06:16

oohh thats tempting for next time hilda grin

Ilikedrinkingblood Sun 23-Oct-11 20:06:55

DH is always asking where things are, to which I respond- "I don't know, I'd have to look- oh I know, you look!" Doesn't stop him though.
smile

mummeeee Sun 23-Oct-11 20:07:23

I hear you natashabee.

I reckon the children can get away with it - although I try to teach them e.g. saying 'I can't get my wellies on' (or just crying/whining) when what they mean is 'Mummy, please could you help me to put my wellies on?'

I reckon this is why when dh does the same sort of things, I get cross. He is old enough to ask me properly! smile

PorkChopSter Sun 23-Oct-11 20:07:26

What's for tea?
I don't know.
What have we got?
I don't know. Look in the fridge.
<blank look>
<goes off to look in fridge and perform the miracle only available to ovary-containing people of combining food to create a meal>

Pandemoniaa Sun 23-Oct-11 20:10:00

No,YANBU. DP who is perfectly capable without anyone to pester, drove me demented the other week while cooking - something he likes and wasn't doing on suffererance. "Do we have?" was a constant refrain despite the fact that he knows where the herbs/olive oil/cheese grater are kept.

Is it because they is men?

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