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to really not get why people co-sleep?

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LaLaLaLayla Sun 23-Oct-11 10:47:32

I really do not understand why people co-sleep. Apart from research telling us how dangerous it is for the baby, I also feel a bit sorry for the poor husbands who are almost invariably turfed out of the marital bed to make room for them.

What is the point? Is there one? Is anyone else as baffled as me by this?

trixymalixy Sun 23-Oct-11 10:49:17

Out of necessity, to get a tiny bit of sleep in my case.

Some people like being all cuddled up to their children.


trixymalixy Sun 23-Oct-11 10:50:00

Oh and my DH was not turfed out.

FabbyChic Sun 23-Oct-11 10:50:11

I co-slept with my 18 year old until he was 2.5 from birth on the sofa, then the floor, because his dad slept in the bed and we were estranged.

squeakyfreakytoy Sun 23-Oct-11 10:50:15

I dont understand it either. A cot by the side of the bed seems the much better option to me.

tryingtoleave Sun 23-Oct-11 10:50:47

Because you get more rest.

Because it isn't more dangerous if the baby is sleeping in a bed, next to a mother who is bfing and not drunk or very overweight.

Sirzy Sun 23-Oct-11 10:50:52

It's not for me. But as long as it is done safely then whatever works best for family should be done surely?

mollycuddles Sun 23-Oct-11 10:51:06

Because it makes bf easier IME. Because there's nothing more gorgeous than my sleeping children. Because it isn't dangerous. Because we have a big enough bed so dh has never been turfed out. Because he wants to too. Because I want to. Ffs what does it have to do with you?

Purplebuns Sun 23-Oct-11 10:51:32

Your baby is more likely to die as a stillbirth, than cosleeping and the risks are very low if the baby is bf and you don't drink or smoke. My DH was also in the bed when we co-slept and it enabled us to get much needed sleep. Nice to know you have researched the subject hmm

tryingtoleave Sun 23-Oct-11 10:52:16

My husband wasn't turfed out either.

If the baby is in a cot next to the bed you would still have to get up to feed them.

PosiesOfPoison Sun 23-Oct-11 10:52:28

Of course you don't get it unless you've had a baby that won't settle, who has reflux with young children who also require your attnetion and if you didn't co sleep you wouldn't sleep at all!!!! angry

Conkertree Sun 23-Oct-11 10:52:31

We co-sleep after ds3 wakes in the night for the first time (usually at 2 or 3 am) cause otherwise I would be permanently knackered - cant sleep in the day when the baby sleeps if you have other dc.

Dh has only ever slept in another bed if ds1 or 2 has needed company eg after a bad dream. Mind you we have a super king size so that helps.

ragged Sun 23-Oct-11 10:53:08

Gonna kick off...
Coz I get much (I mean hugely much, many hours difference) more & better sleep, OP. Still sleep deprived, but not as insanity-inducing as things would be if I hadn't co-slept.

TheBestWitch Sun 23-Oct-11 10:54:20

I wouldn't co-sleep with a newborn cos I would be too scared of rolling on them so I'd be too anxious to get any sleep. 4yo gets in with us now though. She doesn't disturb our sleep so I don't mind.

BerryLellow Sun 23-Oct-11 10:54:20

You're being U if you don't want to 'get it', but not if you are looking to understand people's reasons. But from the tone of your OP, it seems like you are being a leetle bit sneery with an undertone of 'I know what's best for EVERYONE'. Perhaps that's just a misreading though.

rainbowinthesky Sun 23-Oct-11 10:54:57

We have always had a superkingsize bed so can easily fit everyone on.
If done properly, it's not unsafe. Also makes bf a lot easier.

"marital bed" - shudder "poor husbands" shudder. Personally I really do not understand why people use these words...

tryingtoleave Sun 23-Oct-11 10:55:02

Yup, no way I would have survived with a toddler who had stopped napping and a baby if I didn't cosleep.

Forrestgump Sun 23-Oct-11 10:55:31

It isn't for us, we like our bed for us! (dh &me)

Most co sleepers I know do it out of laziness.

Dh had nightmares when we had our first that he had rolled on the baby and suffocated him, he woke terrified.

So if i had gone down that road, I would end up with either a non sleeping dh, or sleeping on my own, and that isn't what I want in our marriage.

TheHalloweenqueen Sun 23-Oct-11 10:56:44

Go away and read more about it so you don't sound so ignorant then I might be arsed to respond properly to your post.

GreenEyesandNiceHam Sun 23-Oct-11 10:56:47

Because they want to and it works for them.

Anymore questions you're struggling with at all?

LaLaLaLayla Sun 23-Oct-11 10:56:55

I guess I am looking to understand, BerryLellow. I have researched it and it is recommended to keep your baby in your room, but not in your bed. If you co-sleep, then presumably you can never have a drink. And what do you do if you are ill?

LynetteScavo Sun 23-Oct-11 10:56:57

Because it's lovely.

DS2 slept on top of me, until my bump with DD was just too big. So much easier than getting up in the night to go to him room to reassure him. When DD was born he just accepted there wasn't room for everybody, and happily slept in his own bed all night.

DH certainly wasn't turfed out. hmm

rainbowinthesky Sun 23-Oct-11 10:57:01

What's wrong with laziness? shock

Purplebuns Sun 23-Oct-11 10:57:13

Laziness, wow.biscuit

FabbyChic Sun 23-Oct-11 10:57:15

I never breastfed at all.

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