"Are you over feeding the twins?"
"His he really going to eat that much?"
"I think you should settle them in the room"
"Why don't you put them down to sleep awake"
"He looks like he is pulling at his ear - maybe he has an earache?"
I have 15 month old DS twins and DD4 years old. Had a tough/busy few years but rose to the challenge and loving it. Feel quite confident in my parenting style and think am doing a good job. However, it grates on me whenever I stay with my inlaws.
When the boys were about 6/8 months, they were on the real chubby side, I thought it was great and v healthy sign, but FIL was OBSESSED with asking me if I was overfeeding them.
At the time, was feeling v post-natal and vulnerable as anyone who has had twins will agree, the first year is v hard, esp when my boys were awake every 4 hours up to a year. I didn't say anything at the time, just bit my tongue, but still harbour resentment.
Then last week, MIL told me one of the boys looks like he has an earache - AS IF I BLOODY WELL WOULDN'T KNOW IF MY SON HAD A HIGH TEMP/EARACHE!!!!
Have an ok relationship with my in-laws but sometimes I wonder do they think I'm totally incompetent! Maybe IABU and lost prespective on this, but they do so much fussing/commenting on what am doing/not doing, it's bloody annoying!!
The other week we were staying with them, one of the boys feel and hit his head, I was right in front of him, but he tumbled, he was fine just a normal fall as was trying to stand and FIL took him out of the room and brought him off and i heard him in other room telling MIL what happened as if i wasnt looking after him.
I have always, out of respect to my DH, never said anything but now that am feeling stronger in myself, I feel like throwing a few sarcastic comments. Also, am not into moaning/complaining about how busy I am as my MIL always saying 'ooh you must be very tired, poor you' - annoying, patronising comments. I wouldn't please them so always have a cheery exterior.
Am just annoyed they feel it's ok to point out the negatives and correct me on every little thing when I know most people in my situation would have cracked/got a nanny!
AIBU or a bit resentful?
AIBU?
To be really sick on inlaws and their interfering!
professorsnape · 21/10/2011 12:37
at the typo, although maybe a Freudian slip?
PILs have it in their heads that bfing doesn't provide babies with ENOUGH milk. Just because that's what happened to SIL, their DD. Maybe we should swap babies on alternate days and stand a chance of keeping them all happy?
MIL drove me mad during the recent heatwave dressing/undressing baby DS. However I had dressed him was wrong, wrong, wrong.
YANBU.
It was even funnier considering DS was already 3 at the time! Given that your DD is now 4, I think you can take the piss out of their neuroses just a little bit! 
Seriously, you sound very stressed from holding yourself back, and why should you?
exactly the same here - when dd was a 3 day old baby and just lying in her moses basket, fil said "it's alright. I'm looking after her" 
and then 5 minutes later after studying her intensely, "I think she's hungry" - speaking to MIL...
and once when we went out with them for the day, as we were walking along he said to MIL "I don't think the children are warm enough, what do you think?".....
Have to say i reacted very badly to both. I can generally hold it together, but when they act as if they are parenting the children it's just too much and I really don't see why I should think of their feelings when they have no regard for mine.
so, no YABU
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