well, that was unexpected. We went to my eight year old daughters parents evening on Wednesday evening. She's in Yr.4. I knew when she started in this class that the teacher was a straight talking, no holds barred woman of the old school. I'd been warnedtold this. I'm quite happy she's a strict, old fashioned sort of teacher cos there arn't enough of them quite frankly.
What I wasn't happy about was the unexpected barrage of negatives thrown our way throughout our fifteen minute chat. We walked back to the car afterwards trying to think of a single good thing she said, and there wasn't one.
I don't expect her to lie and say my daughter is an angelic little cherub if she's a royal pain in the ass, but is constructive feedback too much to ask for? Also, shouldn't we have been made aware of some of these issues earlier in the term and not had them all dumped on us without warning at parents evening?
This is what the teacher said about our daughter:
she's incredibly self absorbed
she thinks the world revolves around her
she's 'manic'
she distracts the rest of the class
she's a poor listener
she gets preoccupied with friendships problems
To give you an idea of why we were shocked, her parents evenings in previous classes have all been positive and mentioned plenty of good things.Now I'm wondering if any of that was true, or the teachers were just too lazy/polite to be honest?
She's pretty well behaved at home most of the time, but does have a loud, gregarious personality. So, why the sudden change in Yr. 4?
Would it be petty, childish and wrong of me to ask the teacher if there are any positive aspects to her personality, or would that have my cards marked as a difficult parent?
I'm not ashamed to say that I burst into tears when we got home, was so pissed off because we weren't expecting something so negative.
I wish I could be a fly on the classroom wall for a day to see what really goes on. The only time my daughter has mentioned 'problems' with other kids has been in lunch breaks, when the teacher isn't there anyway.
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crap parents evening- AIBU to think teacher could have said one positive thing?
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lottielou39 · 21/10/2011 11:43
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