Okay a letter was posted through my parents door a few days ago from an old school friend of mine (they still live in the same house as we did when we were in school) and they posted it to me.
So a bit of bacground:
The old school friend had a massive crush on me back in the day, we were good friends hung out in the same group ect. Anyway after alevels I took a year off to work and moved to a new city. He and a few other close friends went to uni in the neighbouring town so I spent a lot of time there with them.
At the same time I met my now DH (he was at the same uni as them though not in same year) Anyway it was very awkward as he still had a massive crush on me (tried to kiss me on a few times no matter how much I told him I wasn't interested and that we were friends) anyway at the same time I got together with now DH and because of what this old friend acted like all of us started to drift away from each other (but did still try to be friendly still hung out a bit)
He continued to try it on until now DH had him up against a wall threatening him (he was reallly starting to freak me out - constant messages left for me, notes, phone calls and still trying to kiss me etc) DH found him very odd and never liked him. And before the wall incident would shout at him when this stuff happened etc
We all drifted apart more after this though we did still see each other and would go out as a big group (he just wouldn't talk to me or now DH)
Anyway uni ended (I ended up staying in the town I had moved to) people moved away we sent xmas cards to each other, would try to meet up if we where back in home town.
Me and this old friend still wrote the occasional letter to each other and maybe phone about 3 times a year (we did use to be very good friends)
From the moment we sent him our wedding invite (to the reception) about 5 yrs ago we hadn't heard anything from him and neither did anyone else (not that he really kept in contact with a lot of people). didn't even get a RSVP back.
Anyway - he isn't married, has no partner or DCs (all in his letter) He doesn't apologise for any of the stuff (I lost a good friend through it) but I am half inclinded to reply. Say we are fine, DC and more on way, say about what we did and hope that he is well.
Except DH thinks I should leave it (actually he was adement that I should) that there has been two much shit and stuff and that after all this time we should forget all about it and not reply. After all our lives have moved on.
AIBU to get back into contact with this man? even though DH doesn't want me too?
Thanks - sorry it is long
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To reply to a letter from an old freind who DH had a troubled relationship with?
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pickmeupandthrowmedown · 20/10/2011 01:15
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