Considered putting this in "feeding" but wanted a wide set of opinions, so here goes.
I've just had three days in hospital after having DS2. I began bf straight after birth and it seemed to go well. He spent a big chunk of his first day on the boob.
He began to get a bit sleepy after this, and feeding started to become uncomfortable. He was "nipple" feeding so I was experiencing discomfort at every feed pretty much. He was still feeding a fair amount, and he was more often than not on the boob when the midwives came in our room for this and that.
I expressed my concerns at the end of day 1/beginning of day 2. A couple of MW's showed an interest and had a cursory look at the latch, and said it was fine.
Now DS1 had tongue tie, and it took us weeks for this to be identiified. This was a really horrid time, I expressed loads and it took over our life. I told them about the history (tongue tie is often seen in siblings), of my experience, and concerns, and how I knew that bf was not supposed to be hurting like this. I also asked, lots, to see the BF specialist nurse. Each time I was fobbed off, told everything was fine, the specialist was busy etc.
Baby check done by paeds, another cursory check in mouth, no TT.
By yesterday, 48 hours in, I had blisters and sores on both nipples. I showed this to each MW who did things with me throughout the day, again asking for help, as it was getting worse. Same response. Finally, just as the day shift was ending, my asigned mw came in and said "as long as you can tolerate the pain, then we don;t advise you to stop feeding. There's no problem."
I was furious!
Thankfully this morning a nice mw told me she'd spent the night worrying about me, and would be referring me to the specialist today. I was seen, DS is tongue-tied, i was given advice and told what to do next. We are getting it sorted privately tomorrow.
Now, before you go in you are given lots of info about the importance of bf, ff not encouraged. There are posters covering every wall in every clinic / ward about bf, telling you about the support available. This is utter bullshit.
I'm now sat at home with my three day old DS with basically destoyed nipples. I have tears in my eyes each time I feed. It can only get better, thankfully, but no thanks to the majority of staff I had the misfortune to come across during my time in hospital. Apparantly, this is normal. And they wonder why people give up so quickly?!
I am going to send a letter of complaint, but what do people think? AIBU to expect support, or was sucking it up acceptable??
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feelingratheroverwhelmed · 19/10/2011 21:04
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