I will try to be brief. I am f/t teacher and dh is sahd to our dses who are aged 2 and 4. The 2 yo still feeds throughout the night (bf) and, because dh has ms and I am terrified of him getting ill, I deal with all the night wakings. I am shattered.
It is half-term next week and, as we usually do during the school school holidays, dh has arranged to take the dc to mil's for 2 nights. This enables me to spend an entire day and a half working, an evening on the and a morning and afternoon recovering and pottering . I love it and look forward to it hugely, especially since I don't really get any time to myself at all during term-time. It is also unlikey to happen during the Christmas holidays as we have so much on, so this will be my last chance for a rest before February.
However, sil also has ms but, unlike dh she has had it all her adult life and now has very limited mobility. She has finally agreed to sell her house and move to a bungalow nearer to her parents. She is understandably pretty sad about this and wants us to have a final lunch at hers on Sunday 30th.
Meanwhile, (sorry - I am trying to be as brief as I can) ds1 has just started at reception. He didn't go to pre-school, doesn't have many friends and we have been worried about him fitting in. After a reassuring meeting with his teacher on Monday, we feel a little better about this but still feel we need to help him out be organising play-dates etc. He has been invited to a haloween party on the 30th and we couldn't make it back in time if we go to sil's lunch.
The problem is, we have already got her to change the date for us once as she wanted to do it the weekend before but we asked her to postpone it as it is most convenient for dh to ge straight from mil's with the dc and I meet them there and after we all come home together. However, if we did this on the first weekend of the holiday, I wouldn't get my usual 2 nights home-alone as it would be too much of a rush for dh and the dc to leave on Friday.
So the question is, do we (very politely, of course) ask her to change it back to the orignal date and I forgo my treat (did I mention I'm knackered though ), or just go and let ds miss the party or ask her politley to change it to a thrid date (this may not be possible as I know her move date is very soon.
What do you think?
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To try to get out of this family lunch at sil's next week
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lecce · 19/10/2011 20:05
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