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WIBU to go out because my MIL is coming over?

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Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 14:56:15

Last time I saw her, we had a bit of a row disagreement, and the tone (on phone) when she has called to speak to my partner has been a bit frosty ever since. She called about half an hour ago to say she is coming over. So I want to go out to avoid her.

Is this unreasonable?

Quick - she'll be here in about half an hour! wink

hambo Sun 16-Oct-11 14:56:46

No, totally R!

manicbmc Sun 16-Oct-11 14:57:31

Have you something urgent you must get from the shops? wink

Trills Sun 16-Oct-11 14:57:34

You'll have to see her eventually.

But if you haven't yet cooled down about the argument then maybe it would be better if you didn't see her yet.

SO YANBU, but if you keep it up (or make it obvious that you are avoiding her) then Y will be BU

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 14:57:57

Thanks hambo puts on legging it shoes

OneNerveAndYouAreOnIt Sun 16-Oct-11 14:59:02

childish more than unreasonable i would say

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 14:59:14

Oh sorry crossed posts - well I know I can't keep it up forever but I don't want to see her, especially not on a Sunday afternoon when I want to relax and forget work starts again tomorrow! grin

snoopdogg Sun 16-Oct-11 15:02:59

Is she coming to apologise? grin

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 15:04:23

No. She is coming to see her PFB and see how dirty my house is. (not bitter, obviously grin )

manicbmc Sun 16-Oct-11 15:05:55

Best get those shoes on then grin

snoopdogg Sun 16-Oct-11 15:07:33

Didn't think she would be - run for the hills and leave a note asking her to finish the ironing.

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 15:08:26

My plan is to wait til her car pulls up at the front and then leg it out the back to next door's house for a glass of cool white wine a cup of coffee.

manicbmc Sun 16-Oct-11 15:09:40

That's a good plan. That way you know when it's safe to go back home.

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 15:11:04

Great minds, and all that. grin

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern Sun 16-Oct-11 15:12:12

I'd have told DP to meet her somewhere else. This is your home as well and you don't have to have people in it who aren't treating you nicely. Tell him until she apologises she isn't welcome.

But as you didn't do this in time, enjoy your wine coffee.

snoopdogg Sun 16-Oct-11 15:12:41

What did you row about?

DawnOfTheDeementedDead Sun 16-Oct-11 15:12:50

YANBU, but i'd be open about it.

When she arrives, i'd be putting my coat on, and heading out - and saying to her 'Oh sorry i can't stop, got an errand to run. Nice to see you though' Thus giving her a chance to apologise..

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 15:15:26

Stupid row about whether our son (mine and partner's obviously, not mine and hers wink ) should be allowed to walk to school by himself. He's ELEVEN, ffs. And the school is approx 150 yards way. In a village. With no roads to cross. Hate to think what she would say if she knew he was feral out by himself most of the time...

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 15:16:11

Dawnof - that is a much more grown up idea - not feeling up to it today though!

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 15:19:10

Got to run!

snoopdogg Sun 16-Oct-11 15:22:12

Oh sweet jesus, still it's usually the other way round these days with us being overprotective and grandma spouting on about how DCs walked to school alone, in the dark, across three fields, a motorway and an unmanned level crossing, aged three.....

she'll be there any minute!

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 17:07:41

Home again! Spent a very relaxing time next door putting the world to rights until I saw car pull away.

She has helpully left me a ten brush handy household cleaning set as a gift, so that's nice.

LizzieMo Sun 16-Oct-11 17:42:23

A household cleaning set??? Now that is a mean present!!! She did not come to make it up with you then!!

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 17:49:24

She apparently also told my partner (I had a nice cosy Sunday fire going before I was so rudely interrupted) "Cathy burns so much wood - it's so WASTEFUL -I never use cut logs, so EXPENSIVE".

8 weeks til Christmas and the unavoidable pleasant meeting, I guess....

Cathycomehome Sun 16-Oct-11 17:51:16

<<puts another non-foraged log on fire. Doesn't feel guilty>>

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