To stop working and bugger what the client thinks? I am at the end.

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

(whinge warning)

I am SO effing tired. I work for myself and have had a client for the last 6 weeks who is chucking work at me...it's quite hardcore work and I have to use a lot of brainpower and because there is a lot of it, I am basically run ragged. She pays well though...that's because the time frame is very tight and I don't get much time to complete.

I am almost done on the latest but I have been at the computer now for three days solid from 9.00 to 1.00am and not seen the DC or DH properly and am feeling all tearful. I am afraid that if I don't complete as usual by this evening, she won't give me more work....and we need it badly.

But I can't carry on! I have mailed her and said that if it is acceptable that I will finish for tomorrow evening. And am waiting for her to get back.

I did the right thing yes? No?

[FabbyChic]

YOu did the right thing, when work infringes that much on your family time you have to say enough is enough.

You shouldnt have asked you should have told her, never give people the opportunity to say no, always say I shall have this finished by blah and don't give them room to come back with anything.

Spend some time with your kids and husband.

[SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood]

ooh difficult. I am in a similar position (shorter hours though!) but salaried. I too am sick of it.
Is there a negotiation to be had with this woman? Rather than all or nothing?

[HollywoodAgentForTheLivingDead]

There's only so much you can do before your head explodes, your client would be very unreasonable not to understand how much time and effort you've put into the work you've done for her.

Not long left to go so hang on in there, don't you go stumbling at the last fence

[manicbmc]

How much longer will it take to complete? If it's a couple of hours and she comes back with a 'but I need it done today', have a few hours off. Chill out with your kids and then get back to it.

[mumeeee]

YANBU. You need sometime to spend with your family.

[CantBelieveImAskingThis]

If you accepted the work knowing the deadline and knowing how much time you'd need to put into it, and now you are letting your client down, then YABU.

You need to be firmer about only taking on the amount of work you can handle in the timeframe you are given, working an amount of hours you are happy with.

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

It wll take me about 5 or 6 hours to finish and I will be interrupted at bedtime.

So essentially I will finish at about 9 or 10. DH is crap and never manages to srt the DC uniforms and homework out...I will have to do it or they'll be badly organised for tomorrow.

[fuckityfuckfuckfuck]

Then in that case your dh needs to pull his finger out.

[HollywoodAgentForTheLivingDead]

It doesn't sound like he has an option to be crap at sorting their uniforms/homework, you shouldn't have to be under even more pressure just because he can't iron a shirt or sign some homework books.

Maybe you could jot a list down for him if you think he'll really bollocks it up?

He should be doing it though.

[Conundrumish]

Yes, I think your DH is the problem here, not the client!

[OneNerveAndYouAreOnIt]

DH is crap

yet has been looking after them while you have been working solidly for three days? hmmm

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

He won't manage it. I KNOW it's shit and have written other threads about it. BUt he will simpy balls it all up and I have to help or the screeching of the DC as they mess around will put me off for longer than it will if I do it all myself.

He has taken them out to the park and he does try..but when it comes to all the fiddly shit he is like a big stinkng toddler. (not bitter)

I have to do it or it wont get done.

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

Onenerve why would he not look after them while I earn the money for the family? He is crap. At puttng them to bed and at sorting their clothing and homework out.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

Mumbling, my DH is the same, if that is any consolation. He can keep DS alive and happy but has no idea about uniforms, school requirements and such like.

Hopefully your client has come back with some positive replies.

[mumeeee]

You need to let your DH just get on with it. I'm sure he would manage but perhaps not in the way you would.

[mousyfledermaus]

can you flee go to the library and finish your work there?

[Snorbs]

"He is crap. At puttng them to bed and at sorting their clothing and homework out."

That's because he knows that he doesn't have to sort all that kind of stuff out because you do it.

He may not even realise how big a difference it can make if you sort the uniforms out the night before - after all, he's never had to deal with the fall-out, has he?

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

That's true Snorbs but he's never on top...I would have to write him a list...otherwise he wouldn't know what homework and kit are due in. HE does take the DC to school

He has spoken with an old boss of his today about getting a day job with his company...so things might be changing soon!

[HollywoodAgentForTheLivingDead]

Did you manage to get the work finished Mumbling?

Was your client OK when she emailed back?

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

She was lovely about it Hollywood I have an extension. Thank goodness because I was done for!

[HollywoodAgentForTheLivingDead]

Brilliant