My DD and her best friend were invited to a Birthday party of another friend who lives just up the road on friday evening.
Party also involved a sleepover for both girls and another school friend of party girl. so 4 in total.
DD is 8 and Best friend is 9. Party girl just turned 11.
There were 10 children there in total, (boys and girls) the oldest boy being 12 Who is in senior school the rest still in primary/junior school. DD being the youngest.
I was a bit on finding out at what had gone on at the party.
Early on the girls mum had arranged karaoke for the girls but locked the boys in the back garden and wouldn't let them in!! They had to climb over the wall and knock on the front door to get back in
Then after a short while she went out leaving 10 kids in the care of party girls brother, He is 13.
Basically the kids started to run riot mainly instigated by the boys, food and drink was thrown all over the house, DD slipped on the wet wooden floor and banged her head!! In which the others just laughed at her.
The boys apparently were rampaging through the house including the bedrooms. they took all my DDs things from her overnight bag and absolutely destroyed her slippers (which i had just bought) they came back ripped and the ribbons and pom poms pulled off.
The mum did not return until the party ended at 8.30 just in time for other kids to be picked up.
As soon as party was over Sleepover girls were sent to sleep, (in living room)
But after 10 mins or so got told off for chatting so sent the two oldest girls up to the bedroom and left DD and best friend in the living room. DD was on the sofa and BF was on the floor. I then find out that neither DD or BF had been giving pillows or blankets as party mum did not have any spare. The older two had quilts and pillows. They each had one of those really small decorative cushions that aren't really cushions as such.
BF complained that she was cold so party girl gave her a towel from the bathroom but had been used and was still wet. In the end they both had to use thier dressing gowns to try and keep warm. I must add that friday night was bitterly cold here and we woke up to the cars being frozen up on saturday.
Then to top it all off Party mum went out at appox 9 am and didn't return until 1.30pm leaving the girls to fend for themselves. I'd seen that the car wasn't in the drive when i passed at 9, but assumed that mums boyfriend was there, but no.. they'd both gone shopping!
The Girls weren't given any breakfast so were starving when they came home at 1.30pm
Needless to say both DD and BF didnt get much sleep and i am fucking annoyed at the whole bloody thing.
Now they should never ever have been left unnatended, anything could have happened and also i dont really understand if she didn't have enough bedding then why did she not request they bring thier own or even send the girls back to get it. instead of leaving them without
Now i honestly didn't give this a thought as with previous Sleepovers with any of the DC's, Parents will tell them if they need to bring, sleeping bags pillows etc. And as no requests were made assumed they didn't need it.
If i had have known of the situation would have collected both girls there and then.
Sometimes DD can stretch the truth but both her and BF told me exactly the same so i know this is what happened.
AIBU to say something to party girls mum? I have never actually spoken to her before although i have tried to strike up a conversation before but was totally blanked....she is a bit stuck up.
I let DD go as she and the party girl are quite good friends and she has spent quite a bit of time over at thier house
I'm not sure that it would achieve anything to say something TBH but i am so fucking annoyed at this woman, or do i just stop DD from going to thier house in future?
Although i have no issues with DD still being friends with party girl, not sure i feel comfortable with her going to the house....bearing in mind DD is only 8.
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AIBU?
To Think that 11 year olds party was totally unacceptable?
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LittleJennyRobyn · 16/10/2011 11:25
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