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To feel utterly depressed after reading this article?

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SugarPasteLadybird Sat 15-Oct-11 21:06:45

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worraliberty Sat 15-Oct-11 21:09:48

Well 'we' aren't doing anything to ourselves...or at least I'm not shock grin

But having seen the show 'Embarrassing Bodies', I can quite see why some people want this procedure.

Some of the poor women on there had awful looking bits that were preventing them from having a normal sex life.

exexpat Sat 15-Oct-11 21:10:42

I read it earlier and felt just the same.

Moulesfrites Sat 15-Oct-11 21:16:19

I just read it too - I just don't get it at all confused. I have never even looked at my labia to deduce whether or not they are asymmetrical or too long or discouloured - wft?? I just don't get why people are bothered about this and why on earth the would spend £££££s getting this work done.

I suspect porn is to blame but having never seen any I don't really know what I am supposed to look like. Never had a brazilian either - I just can;t believe they are as "mainstream" as people make out.

PeterSkullsWitch Sat 15-Oct-11 21:19:42

If your labia is that embarrassing, just stop showing it to people. grin

KittyFane Sat 15-Oct-11 21:22:34

I looked at the front of the magazine and didn't read the article. People are mad and it's depressing.

bemybebe Sat 15-Oct-11 21:22:49

Goodness. Whatever next... but i do not care really.

PeterSkullsWitch Sat 15-Oct-11 21:23:27

*Are.

MissusTulip Sat 15-Oct-11 21:57:01

YADNBU - really disturbing and upsetting. Only one woman with a genuine reason for any intervention (the lady who couldn't cycle / labia got tucked in during sex ouch), the rest just really hateful and cynical.

As for the 'barbie', I am really disturbed by this. Rebranding FGM as a sexy lifestyle choice and marketing to women as widely as they can. Yuck. Too angry and sad to write anything coherent!

SugarPasteLadybird Sat 15-Oct-11 22:02:11

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Perriwinkle Sat 15-Oct-11 22:08:39

Oh please do get a grip - this makes you feel "utterly depressed"?

Let's hope nothing truly dreadful ever happens in your life then.

SugarPasteLadybird Sat 15-Oct-11 22:31:56

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NotQuiteSoDesperate Sat 15-Oct-11 22:34:53

It really upset me too, OP. I can see where you are coming from.

Perriwinkle Sat 15-Oct-11 22:56:06

Well SugarPasteLadybird, if you've endured that little lot what on earth are you sweating the small stuff for?

Seriously, get a grip.

Kormachameleon Sat 15-Oct-11 22:58:25

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SugarPasteLadybird Sat 15-Oct-11 23:03:28

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SpringHeeledJack Sat 15-Oct-11 23:03:38

I knew what you were talking about from your first post, op, without even bothering to look at the link

just awful

KRITIQ Sat 15-Oct-11 23:06:26

Perriwinkle, just move along then, nothing to see here.

SugarPaste, you are right. Increasingly I find in my work with young women and girls, they are becoming obsessed with having the "right" bodies - size, shape, tan, boob size, hairless, etc., and the "ideal" they aspire to is nothing like a normal female form. I believe it's the influence of porn on women's as well as men's expectations of what is acceptable in terms of the female body. That definition is becoming narrower all the time. Young women who could be spending their time and money on learning, setting and reaching goals, seem preoccupied with the perfect wax and nail job, because if they don't, they'll be ostracised by peers and by all-important men. Yuck.

If you said 20 years ago that so many women would shave/wax their pubic area, most people would think you were bonkers. I don't want to see it becoming the "norm" that teen girls save up not just for boob jobs, but to have their fannies sliced and diced to look like silicone models. It's not just because of the unnecessary surgical procedure (which of course has risks by nature,) but because of how that screws with women's minds.

SmethWitchBelle Sat 15-Oct-11 23:08:12

I read it and admit was a little shock .Clamp your hand firmly over your own hoo-ha and ignore the rest of it all.

SmethWitchBelle Sat 15-Oct-11 23:09:20

I mean a defensive clamping.

Themumsnot Sat 15-Oct-11 23:11:41

Another one who read the thread title and knew what the article would be.
Put a downer on my day too. I have three daughters. The idea that they might ever feel the need to Barbiefy their bits in order to be sexually desirable chills my blood.

SugarPasteLadybird Sat 15-Oct-11 23:15:06

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CatherineMacauley Sat 15-Oct-11 23:25:39

Totally NBU from me. As a cosmetic procedure it seems to me to be a variation on female genital mutilation. And as such (for cosmetic reasons) I find it utterly repulsive in every way.

A clearer example of how society seems increasingly to measure a woman's worth by her "fuckability" could not be found sad

Perriwinkle Sat 15-Oct-11 23:26:24

Oh FFS KRITIQ. So what if women want to keep their pubic areas hair-free? In many middle eastern cultures that practice is commonplace - for both men and women. And it's a huge leap to assume that 20 years hence all women will feel pressurised into having surgery to create a designer vagina.

Please give it a rest with the whole moral panic thing.

Perriwinkle Sat 15-Oct-11 23:27:57

And please CatherineMacauley do not trivialise female genital mutilation by seeking to draw such a ridiculous analogy.

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