Brief background is they are very on/off/on with each other. You really don't know from week to week what the situation is. One minute they're madly in love and the next fighting with each other.
Anyway friend has recently found out she is pg so I was asking her how her and bf were getting on and she tells me that he isn't very supportive and she's thinking of having an abortion if he doesn't start to pull his weight. By supportive she means that he's still going at night with his friends rather than staying in with her. She doesn't want to be a sp and would rather 'get rid' (her words) than be one. I have to say I was a bit at this comment as I'm a sp myself but I can see where she is coming from as she was raised in an sp family herself and knows how difficult it is.
I tried to tell her that she had to base the decision on what she wanted, not than if she might be a sp. Even if you are together with someone, you don't know what the future holds, and god forbid, something might happen to your partner and you might end up being a sp anyway.
Then come the various updates on facebook when he doesn't do what she wants 'It's not too late to change my mind' etc. Only a few of us know she's pg but we know what she's getting at.
I've bitten my tongue as really I know it's not my business but I can't help but feel she's using emotional blackmail on him. Personally it's changed my perception of her and she sounds a bit spoilt. They aren't the greatest couple together to raise a child but it's the mild threats that are bugging me iykwim?
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to think my friend is using emotional blackmail on her bf??
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ballroomblitz · 15/10/2011 11:09
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