to be annoyed that my husband has asked me if he can invite a work collegue over to dinner

[isittooearlyforgin]

with half an hours notice after I've beeen working all day and then not turn up home after i've cleaned, cooked and put two kids to bed?

[LydiaWickham]

what time do you expect them? If it's after 10pm, surely just tell him to pick up a takeaway, and at that time, would said work colleague be expecting to stay over?

[squeakytoy]

Is he expecting a proper cooked meal, or just asking if it is ok to bring a workmate back to share whatever you have cooked?

[troisgarcons]

Meh! turn the lights off, put candles on ..... no one will notice the mess .....

[aldiwhore]

Stuff usually happens this way. Now, do you wish to be perceived as a domestic goddess, or a working woman who can throw together a take away, and be welcoming to a last minute social date?

I'm a SAHM and like notice, because I'm anal and love to pretend I'm on Masterchef, however, there are days when DH will 'have a pint with a colleague' at the pub and then bring them homw for dinner... we have a telephone, we order food, I like the interesting company, we use our 'nice plates' - they think I' great, no effort required from me (other than dusting - not washing - the nice plates).

Fance sitting again, YABU, and YANBU. Be sponteneous...

[worraliberty]

I read that as 'face' sitting aldiwhore

I think that goes above and beyond the call of duty

[onepieceofcremeegg]

Look on the bright side, you say you have cleaned, cooked and put the children to bed. Imagine how awful if you hadn't done any of that and were sitting in the bath with the house in a tip, the children running riot, and no food!

In your position I would pour large glasses of wine, and have a discreet chat with dh in the kitchen. Ask him to either sort out a takeaway, or take over from the dinner preparations. If he takes over he will probably need to bulk it out a bit? (depending on what you are having) and/or add some dishes or a pudding?

[onepieceofcremeegg]

Also this would depend on our general relationship anyway. If your dh is prone to taking advantage of you and is generally lazy then perhaps you would be put out. My dh is generally quite civilised and we are happy on the whole. So if he did it I might be a bit irritated, but would put up with it. Sometimes these type of evenings end up a good laugh.

[aldiwhore]

yikes sorry worra I humbly apologise for that mental image you now have and the typo!! lol

Although, face sitting may well mean a promotion for the OH.... hmm, and yes, it should be good one as that certainly is above (literally) and beyond!

[troisgarcons]

I have a flash of brilliance - it doesnt occur often so just buy into this ok?

Ph/txt DH back and say you have put the plates in to warm and you will be delighted to decant the take-away onto three plates!

[OliviaMumsnet]

OP it is never too early for gin.

[AmazingBouncingFerret]

21:55pm is early??

[isittooearlyforgin]

i do not mind at all last minute collegue coming for dinner - it happens! what i am annoyed about is the fact the collegue never materialised and now half of crap i have downstairs is now in carrier bags upstairs!
never mind! have calmed down now with the aid of my very good friend Hardy's Creek. And on the upside have clean floor and house doesn't look like we've been burgled!
thanks Oliva! I had a suspicion but its nice to be confirmed

[DogsBeastFiend]

Now we know how we can bribe what motivates MNHQ! :o

[Tomisinathewitchescat]

My dh once arrived back here with 8 footballers from the University team he was coaching. To be put up for the night! I went to bed and left him to sort them out.

[Trills]

I [heart] Olivia

[isittooearlyforgin]

good strategy tomisinathewitchescat

[onepieceofcremeegg]

That is one of the good things about having visitors (for me anyway)! You tidy up and clean the floors, and then you have a little drink so you are all relaxed. And you house is nice and clean for the weekend. :)

If the visitors turn up (which they usually do, but not in your case I see) they sometimes bring little treats of chocolate and wine. And if you cook too much (which I do) you have scrummy leftovers for a day or two as well.

[Proudnreallyveryscary]

Umm have we fallen into a parallel universe called Terry and June?

If dh is bring colleague for dinner why isn't dh cooking or getting dinner???????

[BustersOfDoom]

Olivia is right. I follow the Queen on Twitter. She tweets quite a lot for such a busy lady but she regularly declares it to be 'gin o'clock' shortly after about 4pm!

As a dedicated subject I feel it my duty to comply

[Proudnreallyveryscary]

Bringing obviously, darn this medicinal whiskey flu medicine

[OliviaMumsnet]

@BustersOfDoom

Olivia is right. I follow the Queen on Twitter. She tweets quite a lot for such a busy lady but she regularly declares it to be 'gin o'clock' shortly after about 4pm!

As a dedicated subject I feel it my duty to comply

Quite right.


I particularly liked when two minutes before the ceremony at the Royal Wedding she tweeted "royal Iphone to silent"

[isittooearlyforgin]

turns out collegue was vegetarian and lactose intolerant so with the best will in the world don't think my chiili con carne (lord bless you lloyd!) would have cut it any way!

[BustersOfDoom]

Well of course. Respect and all that for churchy stuff. Being in charge and all, she has to set an example.