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to say that if you are a single parent..

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chickentikkatellmethetruth Fri 14-Oct-11 20:18:59

....I take my hat off to you. I really do.

I've been sick for the last two weeks and miserable because DH has been away for half of it and it's been a struggle.

I can't imagine how it must feel to do it alone all, or most of the time.

I really hope this doesn't sound patronising, I just wanted to say, you know, well done you guys.

Cheers wine

cjbartlett Fri 14-Oct-11 20:20:01

it's not the same though because you get to ring dh up all the time and know he's coming back

but I see what you're saying

chickentikkatellmethetruth Fri 14-Oct-11 20:20:52

Eh? I know it's not the same, that's the whole purpose of my post!

stubbornstains Fri 14-Oct-11 20:21:37


cjbartlett Fri 14-Oct-11 20:22:41

oops grin

I see... bit tipsy on pinot blush

scuzy Fri 14-Oct-11 20:23:14

as much as i agree with OP and i have the utmost respect for single parents (be it mum or dad) sometimes having a partner especially in these times with financial worries it can be just as lonely and tough.

we all do a good job!

GypsyMoth Fri 14-Oct-11 20:24:28

Thing is, we cope because we know we have to

And I plan in advance. A full medicine cupboard always. Petrol in the car, spare everything!

Be prepared is my motto

( lone parent to 5)

Theyremybiscuits Fri 14-Oct-11 20:26:42

I thank you OP (takes small bow)

I have just arranged to have an afternoon xmas shopping in Dec with small wine breaks!

I am hoping my Dad will be able to watch the DCs as I haven't been out without them in over a year. They don't see their Dad much. He's very busy indeed.
he's got a new girlfriend

crazynannawitchbitch Fri 14-Oct-11 20:27:08

Agree with's all in the planning smile (LP to 3)

cjbartlett Fri 14-Oct-11 20:28:32

yes it's like me saying to full time working mothers 'I don't know how you cope'
because I honestly don't know how they do but I'm sure they'd say a) because they have to and b) it's all in the planning smile

aldiwhore Fri 14-Oct-11 20:29:14

To be honest, nothing compares to lonliness, and when DH is away I really do revel in being queen bee apart from the cuddles on demand. I know some exeptionally happy single mums, and some exceptionally lonely (un)single mums.

But I do understand where you're coming from OP... for myself, I wouldn't cope well being utterly single. But for my mate who's single, the idea of being in a relationship gives her the heebies.

In the manner it was intended I get you. Though I suspect there's many a single mum and not single mum who would argue, rightly, that you've assumed a lot in your OP!! smile No harm meant.

DogsBeastFiend Fri 14-Oct-11 20:29:27

Or all in the muddling through! grin (LP to 2).

LifeIsButtercream Fri 14-Oct-11 20:29:33

All I can say is thanks! smile

AngieWatts Fri 14-Oct-11 20:29:53

I have long thought than rather than bashing single parents, we should be taking our bloody hats off to the majority, who do a tough job alone. I'm not a single parent,but my mum was, and now I am a mother myself I see how hard she worked to keep the whole show on the road.

Single parents - I salute you!

chickentikkatellmethetruth Fri 14-Oct-11 20:29:55

How is "I can't imagine how it must feel" the same as saying "I don't know how you cope" then? confused

gordyslovesheep Fri 14-Oct-11 20:31:41

No I get the sentiment - thanks - although I find it easier than having to cope with a fourth stroppy moody child aka my ex grin

ToothbrushThief Fri 14-Oct-11 20:33:27

Thank you.
Working LP to 3

ToothbrushThief Fri 14-Oct-11 20:34:41

Someone's going to get arsey over the 'working' bit


It's tongue in cheek in response to cj

I'm with dogs about muddling through!

FagAshLill Fri 14-Oct-11 20:36:28

Awww, thank you x

stubbornstains Fri 14-Oct-11 20:36:34

This thread is making me feel all warm and fluffy. Nice wine too.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow Fri 14-Oct-11 20:37:28


I was a shit-hot mother when I was married and I'm a shit-hot mother now I'm a single parent.

The fact that I had a partner at some point is irrelevant. Didn't make the slightest bit of difference to my parenting. Why would it?

adamschic Fri 14-Oct-11 20:37:48

I had the worst of both worlds, single and working full time, not in a 'I employ a nanny' situation either. Worked just to pay the mortgage and got very little in benefits. I only had one and she is 18 soon so reckon I've done it!

PeterSpanswick Fri 14-Oct-11 20:39:08

When I'm counting down the minutes til DH gets home and I can have five minutes of Fricking peace time to myself, I often think this. Single parents are saints!

CurrySpice Fri 14-Oct-11 20:41:21

I'll take all the plaudits going. I'm a plaudit whore wink

I think most mothers do an amazing job tbh!

Full time working LP to 2 (but with a pretty supportive ex and a BF on the side) grin

scuzy Fri 14-Oct-11 20:43:36

i think support networks be in extended family or friends or neighbours make a difference also. hats off to all mums!

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