We are planning to get married next year. I am 47 and we have been together a long time. We have been thinking about getting married in our very close lovely registry office as late on as possible in the day. Walking to our house - 5mins away - and having food drink and a party at our house. Either a hot buffet done by a catering company or catering size trays of food that we stick in the oven and then people help themselves. Also would be providing lots of wine, beer, etc. No speeches - just someone getting up and doing a short toast to us.
I am not planning on a proper wedding dress, just a nice floaty dress from somewhere like monsoon. Our house is 4 bedroom detached with a living room that is basically 2 small reception rooms knocked together, a dining kitchen and 1 other small reception room. I had thought food in kitchen, partying/dancing in living room and other reception room for those who want to sit down and be somewhere quietier.
This is actually very similar to our 10th anniversary party.
Why I wonder if AIBU is that we could actually afford something much flashier. We have been very poor in the past, but now have the savings to afford a much more "proper" wedding. We are planning an expensive honeymoon so it will be clear we do have money. And although we won't have the planning of party favours, etc, will we regret the preparation and cleaning afterwards we would have to do? Although I do wonder whether we should just book a one off cleaning service for the next day.
The reason for this kind of wedding is that my OH hates being the centre of attention, or even partially. When I suggested this to my OH, OH actually said - oh does that mean I could escape upstairs for a bit when I want a break? My answer was yes. I have always just wanted some kind of a party after my wedding although had considered booking a local restaurant for a meal for everyone. I guess the other motivation is that I don't really want to spend lots of money on one day - but will I regret this?
Sorry its so long.
AIBU?
To have this kind of wedding?
lesley33 · 14/10/2011 10:25
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It actually sounds lovely. AND very similar to a wedding I went to recently, some old friends of ours, been together about 23 years, didn't want it to be too 'weddingy' and love their home (and parties).
It was a wonderful wedding, and it wasn't 'like' any other party either because it was so sincere and beautiful. They ended up doing it more 'weddingy' than they intended as these things tend to be a domino affect. So once the marquee was organised, it then needed dressing, once it was dressed, well the groom decided he wanted to be 'dressed' up too, the wedding dress was a simple one from Monsoon but utterly gorgeous. Close friends and family were more numerous then they'd anticipated and it was a BIG party well into the early hours of the next day.
The best wedding I've been to in years. Our mutual friends are all quite musical, so they left a few instruments scattered about the place (if you can scatter a piano?) and the whole atmosphere was one of solid, long lasting love and the celebration of it. It was almost a 'retrospective' wedding, if that makes sense, and really truly heartwarming.
Go with what you want. You won't regret it. As the plans develop you can decide what parts you'd like, what parts you don't.
By the way, the groom is a bit of a grump, not very sociable, doesn't do crowds and hates pressuring into partying... the bride set up one of their smaller rooms that was to be out of bounds just to give him a bolt hole. He didn't use it once. 
I think it sounds like a lovely wedding
Yy to the cleaning crew the next day.
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