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To be a bit fed up with being a mum at the moment?

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jubblicious Fri 14-Oct-11 00:16:15

Firstly, I love my DS to bits. But the poor thing has a very bad nappy rash where his bum is red raw and diarrhea to boot. It's been like this since Saturday.

I feel very sorry for him as it must be so
painful. I haven't been out of the house since Saturday since he keeps pooing and I can only use wet cotton wool to clean his bum. And changing his nappy outside where people can hear him scream, well I'm sure someone would call the social!

I'm just fed up of all the endless nappy changing day and night, crying and being stuck in the house. I feel like I'm going slightly mad with no one to talk to!

Shakey1500 Fri 14-Oct-11 00:18:23

YANBU to feel fed up. Poor ds and poor you sad

I take it you've tried all the remedies? Egg white et al?

doinmummy Fri 14-Oct-11 00:25:49

Metanium worked for my DD.

Dig deep, it will get better. x

doinmummy Fri 14-Oct-11 00:27:02

Could you have a word with your health visitor? Sounds like you could do with a bit of company/moral support x

BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead Fri 14-Oct-11 00:30:45

6 days of diarrhoea? Have you seen a doctor? If he's dehydrating, he'll have really acrid wee which will be very sore on his poor little bum sad

BackToB4Beatrice Fri 14-Oct-11 00:38:19

We have all had colds this week, DD has been worse affected.
I do feel sorry for her, really. But I do think it is understandable to feel a bit fed up, and almost for slightly selfish reasons.

I know exactly how you feel, and you are not ignoring, or not being caring towards your sons ailments/illness. You just are also "aware" of how much harder it is for you. We have had less than 5 hours sleep everynight this week, and it's crap. But like with anything, it will be over soon.

Funny thing is (or maybe obviously) when DD has been very very poorly twice, and I have had less sleep, been cooped up in hospitals for weeks etc I never ever feel like this. It's like I go into surviver/supermother mode.
It's as if your body allows yourself to feel this as you know really it's only a minor illness in the whole scheme of things.

Chin up x

snailoon Fri 14-Oct-11 00:38:52

Are you sure it's not infected? Have you tried leaving him naked? I know it's hard with diarrhoea. Lashings of sudocreme?

jubblicious Fri 14-Oct-11 00:42:47

I've seen the doctor who said to just binding foods and keep him hydrated, which I've been doing. It's getting better as it not loads of poo coming out now, just lots and lots of bits.

I'm putting on lots of bum cream and it's slowly healing. But I'm sure he's going to associate me with pain soon! And my 'strong' husband can't take his crying so can't face changing his nappy! Men!!

I'm just going crazy, very crazy! And have eaten far too many chocolate digestives today to keep me company!blush

jubblicious Fri 14-Oct-11 21:29:13

Egg white remedy? It starts to heal, then he poos and the new skin breaks and bleeds sad

Minshu Fri 14-Oct-11 21:44:10

Definitely metanium - it's like putty, but the skin heals so much better than with sudocrem.

Pishtushette Fri 14-Oct-11 21:56:47

It`s so awful when they`re in pain. When DD had it really badly she would start screaming as soon as we got to her bedroom door because she knew what was coming.

When DD was red raw the Metanium wouldn`t stay in place because it was a wet weeping wound. Daktarin and Unguentum M both helped on different occasions - both on prescription.

I hope he heals soon.

Inflames Fri 14-Oct-11 22:00:24

We had horrendous nappy rash from 10 days as DS had thrush after my csec wound became infected and I had metranidazole and flucloxacillin. It was AWFUL. Took 4 weeks to clear - eventually Miconazole (also called Daktarin) and plain old Zinc and Castor Oil cream in between. Worked a treat. Most nappy rashes can get infected with fungus which then becomes hard to treat without antifungal like miconazole. Just a thought - and zinc and castor oil cheap as chips :-)

aldiwhore Fri 14-Oct-11 22:05:38

What others have said... I found salt water baths really helped. Maybe that's illogical, why would you use something that dries skin to soothe skin? But I use a combo of salt water baths and plenty of them, with nappy rach creams SLATHERED on (not rubbed in, just thickly plastered) really helped my boys when they were babies, one had excema (not serious, but in 'sore' places) and one had psorisis (spelling!!)....

Your baby won't associate you with pain, but with healing... don't fret about that. You are NU to be frazzled, knackered, emotional and fed up though, NU at all... give yourself a break from the stuff you can (guilt for one!) and be confident that even though your baby may scream loudest when you're helping them, you ARE helping. x

troisgarcons Fri 14-Oct-11 22:07:11

try Eurax cream

cantpooinpeace Fri 14-Oct-11 22:17:30

Talc to dry it then metanium over it is the trick - controversial I know x

JamieAngelosMuse Fri 14-Oct-11 22:24:41

We are going through the exact same thing at the moment. It's so awful to hear his screams. Started using metanium last night. Also been giving him lots of nappy free time. Is this a regular occurrence until the poor little things are out of nappies?

zookeeper Fri 14-Oct-11 22:27:28

a few drops of Friar's balsam mixed with cheap old zinc cream worked miracles for my ds when he was like this

Rollon2012 Fri 14-Oct-11 22:28:55

YANBU being a mum is hard,stressful,upsetting at times,isolating,boring,draining aswell as all the good stufff.

Its a shane women are shamed out of complaining e.g. children are a blessing and are made to feel they have to justify the love they they have for their kids before they do.

Aswell a screaming baby is the worst thing big E hugs hope dc gets better soon

SmethWitchBelle Fri 14-Oct-11 22:30:39

Diarrhoea like that is a bit like potty training - you have to accept you're going no where and leave them bare bummed (and follow with a damp cloth). Metanium is great.

Bad nappy rash isn't common presuming you are changing his nappy normally fairly frequently, and not letting him sit in poo which I am sure you're not.

Pediatric Kaolin is my magic potion for these episodes - it bungs them up (it is basically liquid chalk) - and it gives their bum a break so it can heal up a bit for a few hours - your pharmacist can give you it - its normally only a couple of quid.

Hope he's better soon x

jubblicious Sat 15-Oct-11 00:01:26

Thank you everyone. I was starting to feel a little crazy! I think the isolation and the crying was sorting to get to me

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