A mum I have become friendly with wants DD and I to go swimming with her and her DC.
I don't want to go, I have spent weeks making excuses not to go, but it hasn't had the desired effect...which is to get her to stop asking me.
I am not even sure I like this woman anymore. I haven't been friendly with her for long, yet she tells me how to live my life. If she is not telling me what I should be doing, she is explaining how she is sick of listening to this friend, that friend or the other friend because none of them do as she thinks they should do. She is either desperate to know how much some friends husbands are earning (Doesn't interest me) or she is helping friends by telling them what a waste of oxygen their partners are. (People in greenhouses shouldn't throw stones comes to mind as far as she is concerned.) or she is telling people how they should live their lives.
She has also proper laughed out loud at me when I was telling her some problems I was having. I tried and tried, but could not see the funny side. I was telling her I was having some money difficulties, to the point that I could not sleep and thought I was going to lose my house.
Anyway, I have always been friendly with her, but her DP was out of work for a while and she hardly saw anyone. She spent months and months while he was unemployed not even texting or speaking to her friends. Suddenly, he has got a job, and now works at the weekend, so she is free to do stuff again, as in the swimming.
I feel like I have been dropped while her DP is around, and now I am being picked back up again so I can take her and her DC swimming.
Because of her DP's irregular working pattern, she no longer invites anyone back to hers, she invites herself to everyone elses (I'm inviting myself to yours for tea and chat.) because her DP might turn up at home. All her friends seem to be second thoughts all of the time, yet she relies on her friends to take her wherever she needs to go, because her DP doesn't want to take her.
I suppose I am just tired of her overbearing personality and her gripes about other peoples lives and partners, and I don't want the barrage of questions about why I don't want to do XYZ...because I bloody don't....I don't want to take you to town only for you to spend the whole time on the phone asking your DP what he wants and then telling me we're going to this shop/that shop the other shop to get what your DP wants, as well as you giving me a running commentary on what I should be buying/thinking/doing etc etc because your DP can't be arsed to get out of bed and go to the shops with you. I don't want to listen to hours and hours of your opinions on other peoples partnerships, only to finish every bloody sentence with My DP might be selfish/lazy/meanspirited/impatient/verbally abusive/controlling/disrespectful but he's not as bad as Friend A's DP. I wouldn't put up with him, I'd tell him to get lost etc etc etc
How the hell do I distance myself from this woman without appearing rude or cold?
I have been told I am going swimming with her this weekned and I wont be letting her down will I?
Of course I said Nooooooooo, I wont let you down...It's a date.
Now I am spending every waking moment thinking of how to get out of it for the umpteenth time. btw, she asked me this morning.
Any thoughts??
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littlemisssarcastic · 13/10/2011 22:59
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