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Clarabumps Thu 13-Oct-11 17:52:00

The noise level in my house is really getting to me. I have two boys aged 2.9 and 4.3 and all they seem to do is run around and shout. I don't mind the running so much its just the shouting. They always seem to be either talking really loudly(borderline shouting) or full blown shouting and screaming at each other.
I feel my head is going to explode. My dp says its just boys being normal but he comes from a family who have voices like foghorns. All my family(including myself) are softly spoken.
I want to know if its unrealistic to raise kids in a house where excessive noise is not allowed. Dp thinks i'm mad but this is driving me mad.
Does anyone else have any suggestions on how to deal with noise?
I dont mean normal playing noise/ i'm not suggesting we live in a tomb.. i mean the stupid shouting/shreiking/screaming that is making me want to throw things,

mumblechum1 Thu 13-Oct-11 17:52:46

Are you my neighbour?? grin

LynetteScavo Thu 13-Oct-11 17:56:22

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LynetteScavo Thu 13-Oct-11 17:56:48

I used to wear these

Booooooyhoo Thu 13-Oct-11 17:57:02

i think having a rule that there are to be NO loud noises is unrealistic with children TBH. however there is nothing wrong with teaching them about inside voices and when it is ok to be loud (outside).

alarkaspree Thu 13-Oct-11 17:59:16

I think it is rather common for small children to have problems with volume control, ds has the foghorn voice too, even if you are standing right next to him.

I don't think you are unreasonable to want people in your home to be quieter. But I'm puzzled myself as to how it can be achieved. I remind ds that he doesn't need to shout, but I can't say it helps much. If the noise is really getting to you I'd go into another room for a few minutes to get a break from it. Tell the dcs why. Then when you come back, maybe suggest a quieter activity - read them a story, cooking, doing a puzzle with them.

Mandy2003 Thu 13-Oct-11 17:59:42

That is why my son is an only child hmm

His father, my exP had problems with noise due to MH and addiction issues so we lived as if walking on eggshells all the time. Any noise and he would turn very violent.

I was always amazed how much noise DS could make with friends out of the house or at nursery. Sorry I've no idea how to quieten more than one child so I couldn't say if YABU or not sad

JamieComeHome Thu 13-Oct-11 18:00:03

Oh I know what you mean. Mine are 8 and 11 and the only way I can cope with all the jollity at breakfast is 5 minutes lie-in and a bit of meditation.

I think it's harder when it's them having fun, because you feel you can't really complain IYSWIM. But I chuck them in a room and shut the door if they are getting too loud.

I do end up calling for complete silence at mealtimes sometimes.

WhereYouLeftIt Thu 13-Oct-11 18:05:49

Perhaps these? grin

boohoobabywho Thu 13-Oct-11 20:31:27

Im really lucky because i have a really quiet household. my dd doesnt like loud noises, so there is no shreieking. she did try it for a while but i told her that 'we dont do that' and she seemed to accept it. it was like she'd heard others doing it and was trying it out.

However one thing that they use in Family assembly is that the head mistress pretends to have a volume control and she turns the kids down when they have to be quiet, she tells them to use thier volume control and they do!

whackamole Thu 13-Oct-11 21:16:19

I think you will be fighting a losing battle with 2 under five TBH. That being said, YANBU for wanting it!

My 2 are bloody noisy as well - get their dad and DSS in the mix and it's like living under a flight path they are so loud! Mind you, they are scouse so only have the one volume.

incognitofornow Thu 13-Oct-11 21:17:11

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JamieComeHome Fri 14-Oct-11 16:56:34

sometimes speaking quietly yourself gets them to quieten down and listen. This worked a dream at Playgroup I worked in

MurderBloodstabsandgore Fri 14-Oct-11 17:12:37

yanbu.

for me it's not loud noises, but competing ones.

I can't stand it it the TV is on, or the radio and there is lots of loud talking or playing over the top. Drives me fricking nuts.

DH puts things on 'for background noise' and is a bit shock when I switch everything off, but I can't stand it!

JamieComeHome Fri 14-Oct-11 17:32:32

yy - the TV goes off as soon as the DCs are making too much noise. Either they are watching it, or they are playing.

Shutupanddrive Fri 14-Oct-11 17:34:19

YANBU I found myself shouting 'stop shouting'!!!! At them the other day hmm

JamieComeHome Fri 14-Oct-11 17:36:18

Oh God, me too. Am amazed no-one has yet pointed out the irony to me

ChippingIn Fri 14-Oct-11 17:53:32

I don't really mind if it's 'happy' noise and there's nothing else competing (TV etc), but they don't need to do it and can be 'trained' out of it.

Just get a few stock phrases and use them in a quiet voice -

'You are sitting/standing next to me/him - you do not need to shout'
'If you want to scream and shout go in the garden/we'll go to the park later'
'If you can't be quiet playing that then you will have to play something else which you can play quietly'

or

SHOUT

Stop shouting in the house!!!!!!!!!!!

It does kind of seem daft as you are doing what you are telling them not to do - but if you aren't normally a shouter then they'll get the message you have had enough!

Good Luck!

kiki22 Fri 14-Oct-11 20:14:34

i seem to spend my whole life saying 'inside voice'

MogTheForgetfulCat Fri 14-Oct-11 21:06:43

YANBU - have 3 DSs, 5, 3 and 8mo, and they are so LOUD (yes, even DS3 grin - am somewhat dreading it when there are 3 of them shouting). DS1 is just in that shouty phase (even though he doesn't like other loud noises, he is perfectly happy to make them himself, including an ear-splitting shriek which denotes uncontainable excitement), and DS2 is all 'Look at me, Mummy, watch me!'. DS3 just bellows when he is crawling around and when we are a bit pokey with the yoghurt at dinnertime smile.

Have tried the whole 'inside voice' thing, but to no avail, as yet. They just seem to default to 'shout'. Friend's DS is the same, have fond memories of his attempt at whispering grin. I feel your pain, OP, and YANBU.

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