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To think there is a right way and a very wrong way to complain about accidents on the motor way

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grumplestilskin Wed 12-Oct-11 17:35:15

"bloody typical another accident I'm going to be late for..."
"just my luck!"
"sorry Im late, BLOODY accident"
makes me think WTF! someone could be DEAD! they're not lying in the middle of the road to annoy you for their own amusement!

but things like
"oh no another accident on the A123, not going to make my job interview" is okayish? sad that there's an accident AND sad they missed whatever they missed

Its not that you can't be annoyed about being delayed, and being upset at being held up doesn't mean you cant ALSO feel for the people in the crash. You can feel both, but some people ONLY seem to acknowledge their own inconvenience (and its usually people who are only comming round for lunch or something, and they were obviously cutting it fine anyway..)

am I the only one who wants to give people snotty replies about people planning their brain injuries so they don't inconvienience others when people complain about this the "wrong" way?

grumplestilskin Wed 12-Oct-11 17:35:47


ddubsgirl Wed 12-Oct-11 17:38:55

your right,there was a nasty accident on A23 last week and both side were shut for about 7 hours and i got cross with someone moaning about it,ffs a man died through no fault of his own and all this person cared about was why it needed to be shut that long and should have been cleaned up sooner and ranting about tax payers money being wasted!
im sure the dead mans family 1st concern was tax payers money.

grumplestilskin Wed 12-Oct-11 17:45:44

yup, the most recent one that made me want to rant at the person was a very serious accident that closed BOTH SIDES of the dual carraigeway. A very messy horrible accident. I'll admit that when I'm stuck behind that kinda thing I do have some selfish thoughts, but usually along the lines of "thank god I didn't leave half an hour earlier when it could have been me" sort of thing, as in thank god I'm alive to sit her in traffic unlike those poor people!

AllGoodNamesGone Wed 12-Oct-11 17:45:56

YANBU. Yes it's awful to get stuck on the motorway for hours and, if you were on your way to a job interview it would be really stress inducing. But it's much more awful for the poor people in the crash and they hardly did it deliberately to mess up your day so you just have to get on with it.

Kayano Wed 12-Oct-11 17:52:38

Or they focus on themselves to NOT have to think about death or potential death?

I do this but O don't cope with sadness/ stress/ upsetting situations very well.

I laughed at my gran for joining the society for funny walks when she had in fact had a stroke blush

We still laugh now
It's a way of disengaging from the realty of the situation

whackamole Wed 12-Oct-11 17:55:48

YAB a bit U.

It is annoying to be inconvenienced because of an accident, it doesn't mean you don't give a shite that someone might be injured. It just means you are annoyed.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 12-Oct-11 17:57:54

Most accidents are not involving a death though - mostly they're just numpties who can't drive.

Trust me, you patience would wear very thin if you lived next to the M25 like I do. There is an accident every day. Not many deadies though.

grumplestilskin Wed 12-Oct-11 18:03:46

so only people "at fault" get hurt then?, they never crash into anyone else? hmm

and you don't have to die to have a crash take everything from you

Minus273 Wed 12-Oct-11 20:10:16

Quite often it is the person who has been hit by the bad driver who is the one who is worst affected. Do they deserve it too?

I was hit while stuck in traffic on an A road. He was doing over 80, came round a bend and accelerated instead of breaking when he saw me and the other traffic. I was pushed onto the other side of the road and ended up in A&E wondering if my unborn baby was still alive. The road was blocked for a bit as my car was un-drivable and I wasn't in any state to move it anyway. Of Course I was just a numpty who deserved it laurie. How kind of you to point that out.

OP you make a very valid point.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 12-Oct-11 22:21:14

Bollocks - you just proved my point - some twat drove into you.

You didn't hold anyone up, you did nothing.

The idiot who did that to you probably caused a massive pile up which affected thousands of people.

I see bad drivers on the M25 every single day and have either been driven into or narrowly missed dozens of times.

SugarPasteLadybird Wed 12-Oct-11 22:31:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sidge Wed 12-Oct-11 22:36:47

YAB a bit U.

Not all road closures and delays are due to serious incidents or accidents.

Some of them are due to the police having to apprehend someone, some are due to damage to the highway or debris in the road. Some are due to livestock wandering onto the road, some are due to broken down vehicles blocking the carriageway.

Of course if you are sat in queueing traffic due to an obvious serious crash it would be inappropriate and tasteless to complain. But if you are sat in miles of backed up traffic for no obvious reason and find out later it was because some plonker had an accident due to not maintaning their vehicle, or crashing a stolen vehicle, I would have less sympathy and feel quite justified having a bit of a moan.

Minus273 Thu 13-Oct-11 10:18:22

Yes but it was my car blocking the road and the state of my health that made the police do a longer investigation in case of the worst. So it was me people were moaning about when moaning about the road being closed.

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