I have DD1 (nearly 4) and DD2 (2.5) and newborn DS. DS is our last so I plan to sell my baby girls clothes to make some money so I can buy DS clothes and in turn sell these for bigger clothes for all DC.
All baby girls clothes washed, ironed and bagged ready to be sold. I know Im not going to make alot but anything will her the clothing fund.
Sister has now announced they are trying for DC3, they have DD and DS already. They are well off, 6 bed house, good cars, very well paid jobs. DP then offered these clothes to them.
She still has her baby clothes for both DC so, don't know why she needs mine. Or why DP offered them.
My sister always takes but never gives. she expects me to have her DC at the drop of a hat, leaves DD with me with no nappy and not really potty trained while I was heavily pregnant. expects me to feed DC when she turns up with them.
Anyway after the offer I told DP how annoyed I was as I really needed the money, he already knew my plans, also admitted that as sister didn't offer for me to borrow her baby boy clothes so I have brought new, I didn't see why we should give her extra baby girl clothes for a baby not even conceived yet. we agreed not to mention it to sister again and if she did we would tell her that we were selling the baby stuff. and offer her to buy any she wanted.
had she been in need i would have given her the clothes happily but she's not and already has clothes.
So this next visit she notices clothes, in DD2 bedroom and said oh I'll take them now shall I? To which I said actually we now need to sell the clothes but she can look through a buy any that she likes. She shrugs and says no I've got clothes already just fancied some more incase we have a girl. Now she keeps on commenting on DS clothes saying she can't wait until he's out of them and then she can have them. I commented on yep I'll be selling them too when the time comes. she then exploded saying she had been promised clothes and we couldn't take the promise back. I told her that DP hadn't understood my need to sell them to be able to buy more clothes for DC and if I don't sell them we would struggle to find the money else where. I apologised for the confusion and explained DP shouldn't of offered the clothes.
She then said I should give her the clothes as they were promised and if I needed extra money I could clean for them as they are needing a cleaner. She has just left I feel very bad for the clothes but also because we work hard for the little money we have and Im stretched looking after 2 preschoolers and a newborn while DP is away alot, can't be her cleaner.
so, should I give her the clothes that she doesn't need? Because of DP not thinking. or go with my original plan? She can't see why I want to sell the clothes as she can offer me this "job" (she has a history of getting my other sisters to do jobs round the house but never paying them for).
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pantspantspants · 12/10/2011 10:59
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