Having been on MN for a while, I've definitely mellowed quite a bit because there always seems to be a possible extenuating circumstance behind people's bad behaviour, even if it stretches the imagination somewhat. For example, I understand having compassion for someone who was brought up in less than ideal conditions, but when does that person's behaviour become their own responsibility rather than that of their parents, who were probably brought up badly themselves? I remember when the Baby P case was in the media reading a column that said that, had Baby P survived, he would probably have grown up to be described as a 'feral yob' (or something like that) :( I see lots of posts on here where awful, nasty, disgusting behaviour is excused because of bad upbringings, addictions, pregnancy (?!), PND, work stress etc. and wonder where the point of tolerance ends. Example is the tenancy thread on at the moment over evicting a pregnant, non-paying tenant, who according to some posters should be allowed to stay on rent-free because of her pregnancy. Another one the other day was about someone's sister's behaviour, being excused by having been brought up in a separate house from her siblings by a father who abused her mother. Another one was where the OP's DD was being bullied by a girl with possible SN and, again, lots of posters were saying that the DD should put up with it because of the SN.
I'm rambling, but AIBU to wonder how lines are drawn between behaviour being excused because of 'extenuating circumstances' and being condemned as the person's own responsibility?
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to to wonder when horrible people have to start taking responsibility for their actions?
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AKMD · 12/10/2011 09:50
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