Have spent most of last 4 weeks with baby in my arms, feeding, sleeping, passing baby to another person's arms, or with him in a sling. He has periods of being content and awake, lying in pram or on mat etc, but when tired he needs to be held and preferably fed a bit then cuddled for a bit before we can put him down.
AP principles are lovely for your PFB when you have lots of time and energy to give, but how do people manage when you have a 2nd or more? My DH is not around to help in the evenings, my DD is unwell and needs medicine, extra stories and cuddles atm, and puts up a fight before she goes to sleep. I have been feeding ds while I do story but it's pretty uncomfortable holding a book and trying to stop dd from "patting" Ds.
Am not about to go cold turkey and let DS CIO, but would love to know how people manage toddler and tinies in a kind way. I tried to swaddle DS and put him in his cot (he normally sleeps with us) this eve and I made sure to (safely) make him feel cosy with a rolled up towel and my nightshirt next to him, but after a quick feed, low lighting and music, I put him down and he went from calm to rage in about 10 seconds or less!
Do you have a clever routine/solution?
AIBU?
To wonder how people manage AP when they have a toddler and a newborn? and not much help?
titferbrains · 11/10/2011 19:51
Sorry to be dumb but what is AP? 
I'm due next week and have a dd1 who is 2 years old next week too!
Dont think there is a magic solution. Ds3 is three weeks old, and spends a fair amount of the day in the sling, but sometimes when he is deeply asleep, he will go down in his pram. When we try and put him down when he has only just fallen asleep, he invariably wakes up again.
The bit I am finding hard is from collecting ds1 from nursery until tea time. Ds1 and ds2 want some attention, ds3 is usually in the sling, and I need to get the tea made, which is ok with the sling, but not the easiest. Have to try very hard to stay calm at time when the older two start being demanding.
I sympathise with the bedtime bit. I similarly try and feed during the story. Guess it will be easier in a few weeks/months time when the babies are happier to lie on a mat and play a bit. But this is our last dc so am determined not to wish the time away 
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AP = Attachment Parenting
(because if you don't carry them round all day then you are like totally detached and shit) 
Another one who doesn't know was AP is.
I have dd1 2.1 and dd2 17 weeks.
Dd2 gets dumped placed down carefully when necessary and spent the first 6 weeks of her life in various moses basket/bean bag/pram situations with me carrying her between them.
If she moaned she got ignored while I put dd1 down, if she cried she got fed and put back into sleeping contraption while I put dd1 down. If she screamed then I would juggle both of them but that happened twice maybe.
She now nods off silently wherever she fancies a nap 
. She has had no choice really, I only have 2 hands. But then she is a happy soul.
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