I have recently ended a 10 month relationship as he kept cancelling arrangements at the very last moment.
In June he had a major wobble and said he did not know if he wanted eh relationship to continue, I did not hear from him for two weeks. He then called saying he wanted another chance to try again which I gave him, I did tell him not to cancel arrangements at the last moment anymore as I find it disrespectful.
Since then he has been involved with a major building project in his house, there was no need to had everything done at the very same time except for that he wanted all work to be finished at the same time. He was absolutely obsessed to the point where I did not get to see him for over a week and all he could talk about was building work, which became very tedious and boring after two months especially considering he was moaning how tired he was and how much it was costing him. Initially I was sympathetic, than I thought it was self-inflicted.
Two weeks ago, he was supposed to come for dinner on the Saturday, he cancelled late afternoon, he then did exactly the same on the Sunday. I lost my temper and thanked him for ruining my weekend and hung up. I had scheduled my plans around him and I could have met up with friends instead. I have limited spare time and I am a single mum so my free time is precious to me which he is fully aware of.
On the Thursday he called to say he found my behaviour unreasonable (after giving me the silent treatment) I was upset as my friend died that Tuesday, he did not comment on that but went on and on how selfish I was. I dumped him on the spot after telling him how he had been boring me to death with his obsession with building work and his unwillingness to discuss any other subject. I was extremely hurt he did not even offer his condolences for my friend's death.
I know I have a temper, have I been unreasonable?
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AIBU for dumping him for cancelling constantly? (sorry long)
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DutchGirly · 10/10/2011 16:58
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