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to think that falling in your plate is not on at lunch?

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Hullygully Mon 10-Oct-11 11:51:00

So, Sunday lunch at a friend's yesterday. A couple that we know slightly are also invited. The woman who is very bright and very pleasant for the first hour, drinks so much that she is literally unable to speak (but doesn't stop trying), and we all carry on with lunch pretending that everything is normal and not laughing where she can see.

Is this normal? In any way?

OchAyeTheNooPal Mon 10-Oct-11 11:53:00

no not normal. What did her partner do?

slavetofilofax Mon 10-Oct-11 11:53:19

No it's not normal. Which makes it unkind to laugh behind her back.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 10-Oct-11 11:54:10

LOL! Not normal, but very entertaining for everyone except the poor partner. I know... I have been that partner. blush

seeker Mon 10-Oct-11 11:54:35

Hysterically funny hmm

ClarenceDarrow Mon 10-Oct-11 11:55:07 hilarious! hmm

CroissantNeuf Mon 10-Oct-11 11:55:25

Falling in your plate at lunch is not on...not unless you are a 1/2 yr old who is due an afternoon nap!

Does she regularly drink that much?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 10-Oct-11 11:55:43

Was the food very hot? If so, did some kind person remove her face from it?

Booooooyhoo Mon 10-Oct-11 11:56:01

you all sat there laughing behind her back? what did her partner say to you all?

Twattingcuntybollocks Mon 10-Oct-11 11:56:35

It's not normal,but I wonder if she was nervous and drank on an empty stomach, or maybe she is an alcoholic.
Bit sad that she was laughed at about it though.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 10-Oct-11 11:58:11

Of course it's funny watching someone get steadily sloshed... in that OMG how embarassing, slightly hysterical, where can we look sort of way. What should they have done? Pick her out of the dessert and call AA?

CamperFan Mon 10-Oct-11 11:58:18

I don't think it's "entertaining at all" - very awkward at a small gathering, especially at lunchtime. Perhaps she hasn't drunk for a long time. Although if that were the case then you'd think her partner would have said something.

CamperFan Mon 10-Oct-11 11:59:59

I disagree cogito actually. If it's one of your friends and you're all drinking together, but a relative stranger at a lunch? Just embarrassing and a bit sad

VampiresWearBlackVelvet Mon 10-Oct-11 12:00:39

I don't get from the OP that they were actually mocking this woman.

I can imagine that the laughing was really the awkwardness of the situation? In a kind of "OMG, I cannot believe how drunk she is" type of way?

squeakytoy Mon 10-Oct-11 12:00:58

Not normal, but she probably completely misjudged her drinking, and is feeling mortified today..

VampiresWearBlackVelvet Mon 10-Oct-11 12:01:37

Totally agree with Cogito.

VampiresWearBlackVelvet Mon 10-Oct-11 12:02:43

who knows, maybe this woman woke up thinking she's had a whale of a time grin

could do with getting face in lunch plate pissed myself

Hullygully Mon 10-Oct-11 12:03:39

We were laughing at how bizarre it was, not at her, as such. Yes, she is famed for it, though not an alcoholic, and her partner is very sweet and holds her hand and pretends she's fine.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 10-Oct-11 12:04:31

Having been the partner in that situation it is utterly mortifying for the partner and you make your excuses and get your drunk out of the lunch as quick as you can. The drunk doesn't give a shit either way and remembers nothing of the event the next morning. It is normal to get pitying looks and to hear stifled giggles as they close the door behind you on your way out....

manicbmc Mon 10-Oct-11 12:06:05

She sounds like an alcoholic though, if she can't keep her drinking to a reasonable amount.

Xiaoxiong Mon 10-Oct-11 12:06:55

Cogito I agree with you and the OP, I have laughed in a genuinely amused, slowly turning to nervous embarrassed laughter kind of way as a person has become increasingly drunk at a gathering. Laughter is usually the way people react when they are quite shocked and it's not really their place to say anything (as they only know the other couple very slightly according to the OP).

Hullygully Mon 10-Oct-11 12:07:12

Cogito - he made no move to fact I left them there, despite my friend pleading with me to remain until the bitter end.

The funny part was how surreal it was, and the fact that we were all having a perfectly normal conversation, apart from when she joined in when it went, "I..........used............mumble mumble........then..." And we'd all try and guess at the gaps and the mumbles and answer appropriately.

GumballCharm Mon 10-Oct-11 12:07:34

I have done similar...though not for a long time. It's because I simply can't hold my drink...after 3 I am literally smashed....if I have 5 or 6 then I'm stggering, talking crap and being sick.

I know not to drink through nerves now...maybe she's like me and got nervy.

CotherMuckingFunt Mon 10-Oct-11 12:08:49

I'd have pissed myself laughing. Yes, there might be underlying problems but most probably she just drank too much. It happens.

If it was me I'd prefer to have people laugh about it than arrange counselling. That's for close friends/family, not nearly strangers.

Booooooyhoo Mon 10-Oct-11 12:11:34

"she is famed for it, though not an alcoholic, "

i'm afraid regularly getting into that state does indicate an alcohol issue. and i know lots of posters will come on and say "in my teens i was in that state 4 nights a week" well so was I, but that doesn't mean i didn't have an alcohol issue at that time.

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