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I pulled my MN judgy pants on and up high for the first real time today :o)

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TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 21:54:20

Went with family including 7 children to a huge indoor play area.
Disabled toilets - working
Boys - working
Girls - working.

I took DS2 4 to the toilet as the others were all playing to be faced with a queue and a child of about 8 who had been stripped naked, sat on the sink and was being washed down I am assuming it was his mum with him.

Now while I am the first normally to understand that some children have SN and therefore require extra care there was a perfectly working disabled toilet which was vacant as you had to get the key before using it.

Mum then left the boy sitting there while she dried his clothes - or rather his t-shirt which was wet.

I managed not to say "you could have used the disabled toilet meaning we could have washed our hands" and ushered DS2 out and got the key for the disabled toilet.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 21:55:56

sorry manky finger hit send!!

AIBU to think she could have made it easier on all concerned especially the boy who looked uncomfortable with women and girls going in and out.

BatsUpMeNightie Sun 09-Oct-11 21:57:17

But how and in what way did this actually ruin your day or make any real impact on your life?

sneezecakesmum Sun 09-Oct-11 21:58:15

perhaps she didnt have time to get the key and the boy was in a mess? don't judge anyone unless you know the full story, its unlikely she chose to use the facilities in this way!

jkklpu Sun 09-Oct-11 21:58:37

Do you know he was actually disabled? Any chance he could have gone to the ladies' with his Mum and had a sudden projectile diarrhoea incident that soiled his clothes and this was the only was the mother could think of to do anything for him? Sounds like a pretty exceptional incident.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 21:58:39

Bats the fact that DS2 wanted to wash his hands - they were sticky and the sink was filled with a child.

sneezecakesmum Sun 09-Oct-11 22:00:13

then you should have gone and got the disabled key and explained why you needed it.

BatsUpMeNightie Sun 09-Oct-11 22:00:16

Well if his sticky hands were that distressing why didn't you take him to the empty disabled toilet? Lot of fuss about bugger all as far as I can see.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:00:17

I just felt for the boy tbh he looked so embarrassed.

I am saying she could have used the disabled toilet to save him this, not that he was disabled.

AuraofDora Sun 09-Oct-11 22:01:25

bats
maybe she was upset the kid looked uncomfortable with no privacy
and felt annoyed on his behalf

great question though <heads off to ask it on a million other threads>

troisgarcons Sun 09-Oct-11 22:02:49

Ok - I got the measure of this.

Your child was dirty and need to wash.

Someone elses child was dirty and was being washed.

Ergo your life was utterly ruined by someone washing their child before you could wash yours?

doesntfitin Sun 09-Oct-11 22:03:10

and if she had used the disabled toilets and he wasn't disabled you would have moaned about that too.

Fuss about nowt.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:03:27

I did go and get the key I said that in my op.

I just don't think it could have been a pleasent experience for the boy who was sat there in his all together on a sink while women and girls were walking in and out.

BluddyMoFo Sun 09-Oct-11 22:05:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:07:20

Trois, it was nothing to do with who had got to the sink first!

As I said the boy looked uncomfortable the mum only dried his t-shirt while I was standing in the queue, the rest of his clothes were on the other side of the sink.

I dont know why she stripped him but I think the privacy of a disabled toilet would have suited better. For the childs comfort.

LeBOF Sun 09-Oct-11 22:07:30

So you were inconvenienced. I struggle to understand why it is a matter for judgement though.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:07:47

Bluddy that is possible.

BatsUpMeNightie Sun 09-Oct-11 22:08:31

Well when I was 8 I fell over in a field into a fresh cow pat and got virtually stripped down there and then. We all laugh about that now.

Stop being so bloody angst - especially on behalf of someone you don't know.

Birdsgottafly Sun 09-Oct-11 22:08:54

Perhaps because she was going to be a while she didn't think that it would be fair to tie up the disabled toilet?

You would have been much quicker and able to vacate the disabled toilet, if needed.

I once took a neighbours child out to find her little cousin in tow (the children were on the CP register), he was filthy, so i washed him in a similar situation.

I wouldn't blink at an 8 year old with no clothes on, a little older, then yes, but it depends on the child.

ClartyScutter Sun 09-Oct-11 22:08:57

the soft play centre WBU for only having one sink in the toilets

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:09:36

Le, the lack of consideration the mum seemed to show her DS (if she was his mum could have been relative/carer etc) He really did look so embarrassed.
It was no inconvenience to me or DS2 but little girls from young to teens were in and out as well as women.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:10:53

Clarty, I agree with you there.

EightiesChick Sun 09-Oct-11 22:11:50

It's a bit damned if you do, damned if you don't from the sound of it. Had they used the disabled toilet some people probably would've tutted about that. The unreasonable bit is the toilet only having 1 sink. What toilet only has 1 sink? That only happens IME when it is a single cubicle. If there are say 2/3 cubicles, you always get 2 sinks. <switches focus to worry over poor sink provision>

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:13:35

I am happy to admit IWBU thinking she should have considered his feelings more - thats all I judged tbh not the fact he was there but you could see his embarrassment.

And no I didn't stare I was waiting to use the toilet but big play area, indoor and out, lots of children 3 cubicles - I left and went in the disabled one with DS2 who only wanted to wash his hands.

TheLadyEvenstar Sun 09-Oct-11 22:15:04

Sorry the other sink was little and there were little ones using it. The full size one was in use with the child.

You know the sinks I mean where you would have to be on your knees to use it.

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