To dislike DH's brother, and to be annoyed at DH

[Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast]

Ok, so last sunday, there was an argument between me and DH's wanker of an older brother, to set the scene, my DS is ginger haired, my DH is almost Mediterranean looking, and i am pale but also naturally dark haired, my late father was the ginger haired gene :)

So the brother starts a facebook post about ginger haired wankers, and how he hates gingers blah blah! All i said was em...my son is ginger so think about that huh?

I then took a load of abuse, saying people are called blonde/brunette wanker's? anyway, he went on to say to my DH to "get ur WIFE told" and "sort that WIFE of yours" and to say i talk piss, and i'm a fake and a snob (he's a chav and a wife beater to boot)

Anyway i lost it, deleted him and blocked him, told DH i want nowt to do with him and he's not to come near me, cause he's a tosser, i may have went over the score but i was pissed off! I was even more pissed off that my DH said nowt and literally stuck up for him, saying it was ok cause he was probably pissed and wouldn't have meant it!!

So DH now informs me, he is going out on the piss with this bro tomorrow, now i'm AIBU to be a little bitty pissed off at the whole situation?!

[HecateGoddessOfTheNight]

No. I'd be pissed off too.

What he is saying to his brother is that it is ok to verbally abuse you. That he has his 'permission' (iyswim) to hurl abuse at you.

Because when you socialise with someone who has been a bastard to the person you are supposed to be sharing your life with, you are telling that person that it's ok to treat them like that and telling your partner that you don't care that they have been treated like that.

Unless you think he will tackle his brother about it while they are out? (is that a pig flying over my head?)

[kbend]

i think u are perfectly within ur rite to be pd off

[Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast]

I see the pig!!!

That is exactly what i think, and when i said that, he literally didn't speak to me until tuesday! Saying i was childish and silence is the best argument.

[worraliberty]

He sounds like a nobber but it's not the end of the world.

You did the right thing by saying you want nothing more to do with him but I wouldn't be angry at your DH wanting to go out with him because as they say, you can't pick and choose your family.

I really wouldn't want to cause a huge family rift over something written on a Facebook status...life is way too short.

[ChaoticAngelofSamhain]

YANBU You need to sit down with your DH and tell what Hecate has just said.

[ChaoticAngelofSamhain]

*tell him

[ShroudOfHamsters]

No, tell him that he's getting mixed up - silence is the best way to prove he is a spineless shit, he means. Oh, and to make sure 'the wife' starts losing respect for him pronto :)

[Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast]

I don't want to cause a family rift, as long as i don't have to speak to him or have him near me, i'm quite happy, but i am a bit disappointed at DH.

[NorfolkBroad]

Sorry but what a horrible git. I absolutely hate this "ginger hating" talk. I'm not ginger myself but I think it is so nasty and to come from an adult is disgusting.

As for the "get your wife told"!!!! Unreal. Don't blame you at all for being pissed off.

[Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast]

Yes a 32yr old Adult at that!! I've always dislked him in all honesty, he's vile to women, treats them like crap and is violent. To me that makes him a knob, however his family don't seem to see this

[minimisschief]

it took him making a ginger wanker facebook page for you to cut ties with
'a wife beater'

i mean seriously.. priorities

[AnyCorpseFucker]

I thought that too, mini

Op, what took you so long to get this wanker out of your life ?

[Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast]

I know i know, i'm guilty of it! I was told i was to forget about it from my sis in law, (his other half) and i accepted his friend request BEFORE i knew he had been violent with her, however i never deleted him purely because their father died around the same time i found out, and then i thought i'd ignore him and then all this kicked off and i have finally had enough, and i am not happy to be associated with him.

[AnyCorpseFucker]

Good

[iwasyoungonce]

Jesus, I'd be livid if I was you.

Your husband should be telling his DB to apologise to you, rather than going up the pub with him.

What a pair of twats they are. (Poor you).