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izzybizzybuzzybees Thu 06-Oct-11 09:58:52

Right hopefully my workmates dont use MN!

We are trying to sort out shifts to cover xmas and new year. I wanted to work new year but got pulled out of a hat to work xmas as not enough names to cover it. Fair enough, bit pissed off but no other way around it.

We all choose shift 'options', it does not seem to be working out so one person is asked if she would mind doing a crappier shift than they wanted. Initially said yes so looked like it was sorted. Then we find out she cant do that option as no chidcare. She has asked me if id mind swapping one of my shifts to another. This would solve the shift problems and mean everyone is relatively ok about what they are working. Except if i swap i lose out money, quite a bit! (around £250 minimum) while she would benefit greatly and get 34 hours pay AND 2 PH days back.

AIBU? I really dont know!

ScaredBear Thu 06-Oct-11 10:01:37

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ShroudOfHamsters Thu 06-Oct-11 10:03:20

No, sorry, too much money to lose. Say you can't possibly afford it. It's not a fair solution.

Muddlewitch Thu 06-Oct-11 10:04:07

No YANBU that seems very unfair.

Fo0ffyShmooffer Thu 06-Oct-11 10:04:36

Yanbu - say no. I can't see any conceivable reason why you should put yourself in the position to lose out in this situation.

She shouldn't have agreed without knowing.

TheTenantOfWildfellHall Thu 06-Oct-11 10:04:40

YANBU. She agreed, tell them you can't change. It might be that she has now realised the financial benefits to her of swapping and is a bit pissed off she agree to do the other shift.

Someone's going to lose out. She's realised that now and doesn't want to.

Them's the breaks!

Lemonylemon Thu 06-Oct-11 10:06:42

Nope, tell her you've already made other arrangements, so can't swap. Surely she must know someone who can look after her kids? Relatives? Friend? <<Realise that some people don't>>

LisasCat Thu 06-Oct-11 10:06:54

Can you not go to management and tell them you would be happy to swap the shifts if it weren't for the fact that you would lose out financially. Then they have the option to make a content workplace, by making up the extra cash and days off you.

LisasCat Thu 06-Oct-11 10:07:17

for you

slavetofilofax Thu 06-Oct-11 10:10:31

I would just say no and leave it there.

Christmas shifts seem to be very emotive, so I would try to avoid getting into it with your boss about the money.

themightyskim Thu 06-Oct-11 10:15:32

I hate the christmas rota at work I always end up with the gash ones because I cant say no to people, but evebn I would draw the line at loosing out on £250 unless it really benefitted me YANBU

TheTenantOfWildfellHall Thu 06-Oct-11 10:15:33

I agree with slave. Once your give them a way in by suggesting that you would be able to swap if the money/time is made up (which frankly, they won't do). They might start to apply pressure if the other lady starts making a fuss. You could then find yourself in the middle of some real unpleasantness.

Listen to Zammo, just say no.

izzybizzybuzzybees Thu 06-Oct-11 10:21:46

LisasCat there is NO way they'd make up the money unfortunately!

I am pleased to see i'm not being unreasonable, i really wasnt sure! The thing is if i did swap it would solve all the problems and mean the shifts were all covered and 6 other people would be happy, so i feel bad that i dont want to. On the otherhand i just dont see why i should lose out on so much money, especially when the other girl would gain both financially and in time off! Just doesnt seem fair!

Just seen she's posted this on FB:

"which would you do? 1) leaves me out of pocket 2) will change the plans of 6 people and I could still be left out of pocket....grrr nothing is ever simple!"


TheTenantOfWildfellHall Thu 06-Oct-11 10:24:37

"which would you do?"

It's not really her choice, is it?

Besides, that looks a lot like she doesn't want to lose out on the money. She's hardly asking for help to look after the children whilst she works her original shift.

I shall be very cross if I find out you've swapped with her! hmm

mellowcat Thu 06-Oct-11 10:25:08

I agree, just say no if you can. YANBU.

WilsonFrickett Thu 06-Oct-11 10:26:14

What do you get out of swapping OP? Not the other 6 people, you?

planetpotty Thu 06-Oct-11 10:27:48

If that was a direct dig at you on FB then I would say she is BVVU and just stick with what you have.

izzybizzybuzzybees Thu 06-Oct-11 10:30:54

Wilson if i swapped it'd mean i'd definately not be working xmas day. At the minute the shift option ive chosen also means id not be working xmas day so if i did get this option i wouldnt gain anything by swapping. However i might not get the option i want meaning i may well be working xmas day! Its so hard! God that looks confusing!

fedupofnamechanging Thu 06-Oct-11 10:33:12

Don't swop. She shouldn't have agreed to it without checking she could do it. It's her problem, not yours. And if anyone else complains to you, ask them if they are prepared to make up the loss of money to you. If not, then they need to wind their necks in.

WilsonFrickett Thu 06-Oct-11 10:33:15

confused grin

If you're not going to definitely gain anything, then I wouldn't swap. And I agree, no point going to management, they're not going to pay twice are they? And I wouldn't worry about the facebook thing, she's just posted what you've posted here but in a more public way. Hope it works out for you!

MammyT Thu 06-Oct-11 10:36:52

That's not on.. Too much money to lose in my opinion.

slavetofilofax Thu 06-Oct-11 10:46:29

She's posted that on FB?? Cheeky cow! She has already agreed to do it anyway so what choice does she have?

I thought you should say no before, but this time I reallly think you shoud say no with your heels dug right in!

Alibabaandthe80nappies Thu 06-Oct-11 10:49:53

Don't swap. Why is it more important that she is happy than it is that you are?

izzybizzybuzzybees Thu 06-Oct-11 11:01:38

She was asked by manager to do the crappy shift and she said yes but nothing was actually formalised so its not actually her shift yet as such. We are still trying to work out the options which is why she asked for the swap.

Not too impressed by the FB thing and so want to comment but i guess thats not sensible!

I just feel bad cos if i agreed that'd be it sorted!

fedupofnamechanging Thu 06-Oct-11 11:06:51

It would be sorted for everyone except you. Do you think all your colleagues would sit around worrying about your Christmas and financial situation? I'm betting the answer is no. They'd think 'wahay. izzy has been a total mug and we are all off the hook'. You sound lovely, but you need to harden your attitude a little bit or they will walk all over you.

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