A neighbour has offered him a place at the club run by her youth group. It is a religious group, and is Christian with Baptist leanings (not sure if that part is relevant, but there you go).
Let me first of all say that DP and I have no problem with other people having a belief system. We are both (for all intents and purposes) agnostic, but are not militantly opposed to religion, or anything like that. I mention this because the fact that this is a religion-focused club would not put me off sending DS there, I like him to be exposed to all belief systems, because I want him to grow up with respect for others.
Two things are making me question whether or not to let him go. The first is that I know one of the leaders who interacts heavily with the children was also involved a few years ago when a young friend of mine came away needing counselling after some of the things that were said to her by this man. While I don't know the ins and outs of what was said, it does make me uncomfortable sending my DS to a club where this man may have a lot of contact with him. DS is five, and the friend of mine was 16 at the time, but it's still a concern. It was not an abuse situation, it was some deeply religious comments that seriously put the wind up my friend, and she was very troubled about it for some time.
The second reason is that I know another of the leaders, and she is incredibly homophobic. DS's favourite aunt (honourary aunt, not a sibling, 'supporting adult' in his naming day) is gay and I would not want him hearing anything bad. Again, he is five, and a lot of that crap (if it was said) would go right over his head, but I'm not sure I want to take the chance tbh.
So taking the above into account, WIBU to not send him to the club? We don't have childcare issues, family members will cover us, but I know children really enjoy these clubs, so I would like to let him go to one at some point. Just not sure if this is the right one.... totally willing to be told IABU btw!
TIA.
P.S. Sorry, this was longer than I thought!
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TidyDancer · 04/10/2011 21:34
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