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no one has said it but am i clinging to my youth and need to move on? you'll all laugh

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aCwtchIsMoreThanAHug Tue 04-Oct-11 20:34:25

as a teen i was a goth. black lipstick and dark attitude blush i had my DS at the age of 18 so i 'grew' up and dressed as what my mum would call normal but in the last few months my pink converse shoes have secretly been finding their way on to my feet beneath my jeans with an excuse of "they're comfy for driving" but i cant let go of my punk rock style and have been craving it for years! i dont mean black lippy etc, just flared jeans and wanting to get my pink guitar out blush just have an 'individul' sense of style?
(as you can see pink is my fav colour lol)

im 23 now with 2 DC am i being silly to not be able to let go of my style? DP hasnt said anything hmm

i REALLY should have name changed!! blush

squeakytoy Tue 04-Oct-11 20:36:58

you are 23... not 83!!!

I am 42 and still dress exactly how I want to and wear what I like.. if that is 4" stiletto boots, a green day vest, and black spandex trousers, that is what I will wear... and I usually have some wierd colour in my hair..

GetOrfMo1Land Tue 04-Oct-11 20:37:01


What have you been wearing which meets your mum's approval? Sainsbury's cardigans?

Yes please wear what you really want to - you don't have to dress all sensible mumsy just because you are a mum.

Buy yourself some more pink stuff.

Lizzylou Tue 04-Oct-11 20:37:32

I have grey converse and I am 38!

I refuse to look too middle aged, I wish I had a pink guitar though.

Oh and I lived in Wales for a while and love the word Cwtch smile

MissPenteuth Tue 04-Oct-11 20:37:54

I turned 30 last weekend and I still dress in jeans, T shirts and trainers (plimsoll type), pretty much the same as I did when I was in my late teens and twenties.

Twenty-three is still very young really, maybe when you're pushing 40 you can re-assess (some can pull off the 'young and trendy' look when older, some can't, and whether you care or not is up to you!).

aCwtchIsMoreThanAHug Tue 04-Oct-11 20:39:05

thats exactly it!!!! when i go shopping i ask myself is that mumsy enough? think its because im self concious of being a young mum smile lol i need to get a grip ha ha

Shakey1500 Tue 04-Oct-11 20:39:16

Of course you're not being silly! If it's style/look you feel comfortable in, what does it matter?

I'll be 21 for the second time ( ;) ) on Sunday and I dress like a 20 year old, slightly modified so as not to come under the heading "mutton dressed as lamb" but there's a fair few years between me and a twinset.

ChippingIn Tue 04-Oct-11 20:39:17

What GOML said!!
& Squeaky

Lizzylou Tue 04-Oct-11 20:40:43

I have to say, I went out with my work colleagues on Friday, they range in age from 19-36.
I held my own and had loads of compliments on my clothes, dancing blush and sense of fun. Apparently I am a "Legend" (though that could be them laughing at me?!).

Unfortunately it took me 2 days to get over that night, they all went out on the Saturday as well and were fresh as a daisy.

Sooo, bloody well enjoy being in your early 20s!

aCwtchIsMoreThanAHug Tue 04-Oct-11 20:41:00

lizzy lou - im in swansea, s,wales!! and my guitar is awesome lol blush its my pride and joy lol next to my car grin x

Feminine Tue 04-Oct-11 20:41:24

I thought you were going to say you were 40-ish (my age) grin

At 23 most women are still finding what suits ...lucky you already know!

HoneyPablo Tue 04-Oct-11 20:42:31

I am 44 and still waiting to wear grown up stuff. I was an original goth in the 80s. I had a period when I tried to be more mumsy, but it didn't last. being goth/alternative is me- it's who I am and it is more than just what I wear. I wear what I like and what I am comfortable in- not what other people expect me to wear.

octopusinabox Tue 04-Oct-11 20:42:37

Good god, you're 23 .. this is your youth. Make the most of it and wear what the hell you like.

aCwtchIsMoreThanAHug Tue 04-Oct-11 20:43:07

thanks girlies smile i thought what if its time to move on but i am going to wear my pink stuff with pride hee hee smile grin and my last post might be confusing my car isnt pink but it would look good in pink ha ha smile xx

aCwtchIsMoreThanAHug Tue 04-Oct-11 20:45:39

listening to a bit of the white stripes through my ear phones before going in the bath i cant surpress the goth in me anymore ha ha grin

unpa1dcar3r Tue 04-Oct-11 20:45:41

A cwtch is more than a hug (take it you're Welsh OP?)

For heavens sake darlin, you're still only a baby yourself. Dress exactly how you want to.

I'm 47 and have a very distinctive style of my own and when i see programmes like This Morning with all these 'older' models and Hollyby Willowby going all gushy 'oooh look how gorgeous this dress is at only 10 zillion pounds'...or 'this one is great for hiding those bulges'....Aaaargh I wouldn't be seen dead in anything they show thank you very much.

Right now I have pink and purple hair...there's a clue! I wear doc martins and lacy tights and hippy dresses and hats and loads of bling of the large variety and scarves round my waist and...oh you get the picture I'm sure.

Who makes the rules her which dictate how you should look? Bugger that for a game of soldiers love, wear what you want and enjoy yourself.
Don't take life too seriously cos no one gets out alive anyway.

WilsonFrickett Tue 04-Oct-11 20:46:02

I'm only laughing at the thought that you think you're not youthful anymore! YOU'RE TWENTY FRICKIN THREE! A baby! A child! A slip of a lass!

(oh and the last time I checked, you were allowed to wear what you liked no matter what age you were - even me and I'm FORTY!!!!)

GetOrfMo1Land Tue 04-Oct-11 20:46:45

I know what you mean thoigh - I had dd at 17 and I think I consciously dressed older than my age as I didn't want to look like a stereotypical teen mother. I think I spent my early twenties in frumpy black trousers and jumpers hmm

Now I wear tight jeans and my teenage daughter's biker boots <mutton>

iFailedTheTuringTest Tue 04-Oct-11 20:46:58

What everyone else said.

I am almost 40, have dyed my hair f*ck off red for years, and have just had my 9th ear piercing.

I am a mum, and have a grown up job.
< brushes hair over ears that are full of metal>

Stop being a grown up. It's no fun.


valiumredhead Tue 04-Oct-11 20:47:14

23? This is your youth! Wear want you want!

Reality Tue 04-Oct-11 20:48:36

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HoneyPablo Tue 04-Oct-11 20:49:16

The great John Lydon once said the best thing about getting old is that you can wear what you want and it suits you.
Only the young and the daft worry about what they wear, or what other people think of it.

LikeACandleButNotQuite Tue 04-Oct-11 20:50:13

Good grief, you are 23! Im 26 and embracing the clothing style you are trying so hard to 30 week baby bump is squeezed beneath funky t-shirts (maternity ones just are a bit meh)...I have just packed the babies hospital stuff into my old Ramones satchel for hospital and cought it a couple of (to my MILs horror) black vests.

Cannot keep out of my Toms, and I am unashamed.

Dress in your style. WHatever that is. Do not Frumpify earlier than is absoloutley necessary!

aldiwhore Tue 04-Oct-11 20:50:15

FGS woman you're a veritable YOUTH, and even if you were 80 I think its far more healthy to be who you choose to be than what others think you should be.

An 80 year old Goth would get a round of applause from me anyway, for pure 'staying power' alone.

Fuck what others think, let your children see their real mummy and not one you think you should look like. Hey, they may not like your style, but they'll love seeing you. (Shit, I sound like bloody Avatar now) Some stuff just isn't practical, but pink converse? Totally mummyworthy attire.

Lizzylou Tue 04-Oct-11 20:51:03

I was talking to a Grandmother at DS1's football practice this evening and she must have had 8 earrings in one ear (couldn't see the other, was dying to have a good gawp), tattoos on her hands and wrists and v trendy dressed.

She must have been at least 55.

She actually looked fab. Was very well spoken and good company.

I have sooo learned not to judge by appearances. Do what you like!

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